“You’re a ‘bad Christian’ for not doing ….” -Cheater This shaming label used to make me jump to do my ex and others’ bidding. I did not want to be seen as a “bad Christian.” Then I wised up to the source. I stopped seeking that source’s approval and validation. Is an unrepentant adulteress really … Continue reading ““Bad Christian” Sure…”
Author: Divorce Minister
A mismatch
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14, KJV Whether one is abandoned or cheated on or both, the reality for faithful spouses is as stark as this verse from 2 Corinthians paints it. Light cannot fellowship with … Continue reading “A mismatch”
Practical Minimization: Focusing on Faithful Spouse “Faults”
Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye. -Matthew 7:5, KJV When pastors and counselors focus on the faithful spouse’s “faults,” they are minimizing the cheating and the seriousness of this sin. This is why … Continue reading “Practical Minimization: Focusing on Faithful Spouse “Faults””
NOT “friends” with ex and that is fine
How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14b, NLT Some Christians expect faithful spouses to remain “friends” with their cheating ex-partner following divorce. This is insane! The expectation is wound up in a twisted and perverted understanding of what forgiveness demands in this situation. Guess what? … Continue reading “NOT “friends” with ex and that is fine”
DM, How do I get past this?
Hello, Do you have any teachings on when the ex spouse who cheated marries the affair partner and then they start going to church and never repented or tried making amends to the spouse and children left behind. I’m struggling immensely trying to process how the ex and affair partner all the friends and the … Continue reading “DM, How do I get past this?”
Pastor David pressed his way to a 1st Place!
Yesterday, I competed in my very first powerlifting competition. It was sanctioned under the UPA Powerlifting federation. My goal was to break a small national record held for my specific age group and size. I achieved that goal. For those interested in more details, I have this to say about the event: Some last minute … Continue reading “Pastor David pressed his way to a 1st Place!”
Successful lifting meet for DM!
I had a successful meet today… more to come tomorrow on that… stay tuned!
Saturday is meet day!!!
Tomorow, July 16, I compete in my first sanctioned powerlifting competition. This will be the post for the day. I will probably share how it went in a later post. It is good to have hobbies 😉 -DM
“That’s not a friend.”
“That’s not a friend,” says Father Terry. My divorce was fresh. Maybe I was still in the separation period. I am not sure. What I remember is talking with a colleague and mentor, Father Terry, who shared some simply but profound wisdom. After telling him about a “friend” who had essentially called me a deadbeat … Continue reading ““That’s not a friend.””
Adultery equals “evil” per Bible!
“If a man is discovered committing adultery, both he and the woman must die. In this way, you will purge Israel of such evil.” -Deuteronomy 22:22, NLT What Christians need to understand is that adultery is truly evil! This is not “second fiddle” to divorce. Adultery is the main event in the evil performance. This … Continue reading “Adultery equals “evil” per Bible!”