4 And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, “Though I fear not God, nor regard man; 5 Yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me.” -Luke 18:4-5, KJV A while back, I remember a mentor, Pastor Gary Gilbertson, teaching on this … Continue reading “I love being wanted–even if it is only by a pet.”
Author: Divorce Minister
Yesterday was the DM Blog Anniversary… 8 years!
Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously turned eight years old yesterday! This blog almost did not exist. Years ago, I wondered if anyone would be interested in reading what I had to say on divorce and adultery situations. This blog’s success suggested many did. To date, the blog has had over 900,000 views and over 350,000 … Continue reading “Yesterday was the DM Blog Anniversary… 8 years!”
Dear 30 Year Old Self…
Dear 30 Year Old Self, It is going to be alright. Really, it is. I know that seems unlikely right now. Your world has been blown apart and the future seems bleak. Trust me: It gets better, much better! The chaplaincy internship that you are doing today will lead to a bright future for you. It … Continue reading “Dear 30 Year Old Self…”
Too full of themselves
Do you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him. -Proverbs 26:12, NKJV Probably, the most spiritually deadly sin is arrogance. Cheaters are marked by oodles and oodles of pride and arrogance. It takes quite a bit of arrogance to cheat on your spouse and still think you … Continue reading “Too full of themselves”
Healing waters
And Elisha sent a messenger to him, saying, “Go and wash in the Jordan seven times, and your flesh shall be restored to you, and you shall be clean.” -2 Kings 5:10, NKJV Something about water brings healing. I am up at a cabin in Northern Minnesota writing these words today. Earlier today, I played with my daughter … Continue reading “Healing waters”
DM on vacation and competing soon!
July is a beautiful month in Minnesota (see picture above). This is the month that I have the opportunity to get away with family and recharge on some water in the North of the state. So, this means I will be on vacation shortly for a few days. Sometimes I am able to post during … Continue reading “DM on vacation and competing soon!”
Jesus was rejected, too!
O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not! -Matthew 23:37, KJV What did Jesus do that “made” Jerusalem reject him? Nothing. The point of this is to highlight … Continue reading “Jesus was rejected, too!”
Building a sand castle with the incoming tide
Infidelity is like the incoming tide to your sand castle marriage. It obliterates all the hard work done to create a beautiful relationship. It undermines everything. Then it washes it all away like it was never there. Such is marital infidelity. Whether the sand castle was already falling down or whether it was a “Taj … Continue reading “Building a sand castle with the incoming tide”
Let them be wrong and invest elsewhere
Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! -Isaiah 5:20, KJV Part of the injustice faithful spouses often experience is a less than supportive community of people. Sometimes, even confessing Christians will not accept what … Continue reading “Let them be wrong and invest elsewhere”
Cheater-Speak: “Yes, I slept with him. But that is not why I am divorcing you!”
“Yes, I slept with him. But that is not why I am divorcing you,” says remorseless Cheater. A cheater saying such a thing is a cheater who is desperate to control how people see them in the divorce. They understand that Christians may look upon them poorly once their adultery is known. So, they want … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “Yes, I slept with him. But that is not why I am divorcing you!””