…whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. -Hebrews 13:4b, KJV How do you put a price on that? Some Christians are so busy blaming a faithful spouse that they fail to see the incredible loses this individual has unjustly endured. They do not “get it.” In the evangelical culture, many of us were raised to value … Continue reading “How do you put a price on that?”
Author: Divorce Minister
Savoring Blessings
The LORD blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12a, NIV When you go through a divorce from a cheater, you start to see life differently. You cannot go through that experience and remain unmarked. That said, today’s post is about a positive out of that horrible experience. Personally, I … Continue reading “Savoring Blessings”
You cannot change your spouse.
“You cannot change your spouse,” says the pastor. This is generally accepted marriage wisdom. It is the idea that we do not have the power to make our spouse into someone else. It is a caution against marrying someone with “potential.” This is also important wisdom to keep in mind with cheaters. We cannot change … Continue reading “You cannot change your spouse.”
Just because the cheater is in the pastor’s office, doesn’t mean they ended the affair.
Just because a cheater has agreed to see a Christian counselor or pastor to work on the marriage does not necessarily mean the cheater has ended the affair. It boggles my mind to think a cheater would attend Christian marriage counseling with a therapist or pastor while secretly continuing to cheat. But it happens! I know … Continue reading “Just because the cheater is in the pastor’s office, doesn’t mean they ended the affair.”
“The Assessment”
As I have observed, those who plow evil and those who sow trouble reap it. -Job 4:8, NIV “The Assessment” Within the evangelical culture, the belief that the faithful spouse did something “to deserve” the adulterous desertion of their partner is all too prevalent. They have not learned from this erroneous assessment by one of Job’s … Continue reading ““The Assessment””
A seared conscience
But the [Holy] Spirit explicitly and unmistakably declares that in later times some will turn away from the faith…[misled] by the hypocrisy of liars whose consciences are seared as with a branding iron [leaving them incapable of ethical functioning]…. -I Timothy 4:1a,2, AMP When a cheater is telling their spouse, pastor, and/or Christian counselor that … Continue reading “A seared conscience”
So, if someone killed a terminally ill person, is she therefore NOT a murderer?
Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! -I Corinthians 6:15, NLT Christians seem especially shy in assigning blame to a cheater for destroying his or her marriage. Many seem to believe or operate … Continue reading “So, if someone killed a terminally ill person, is she therefore NOT a murderer?”
Officially sanctioned activity
My current employer is the federal government of the United States. As a chaplain in government employ, I had to seek approval from the ethics division of my government division to continue this blogging ministry. So, there was a period of time that I was unsure whether or not I would be able to continue … Continue reading “Officially sanctioned activity”
The [False!] Gospel According To Cheater
For the time is coming when they will no longer listen and respond to the healing words of truth because they will become selfish and proud. They will seek out teachers with soothing words that line up with their desires, saying just what they want to hear. -2 Timothy 4:3, TPT The [False!] Gospel According To … Continue reading “The [False!] Gospel According To Cheater”
Infidelity and “The False Gospel of Self-Fulfillment”
See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy…. -Colossians 2:8a, NIV Recently, I came across a fascinating article in Christianity Today by Jen Pollock Michel entitled “Glennon Doyle Melton’s Gospel of Self-Fulfillment: Why living your truth bravely isn’t enough.” The article takes aim at the thinking espoused by famous Momastery blogger, … Continue reading “Infidelity and “The False Gospel of Self-Fulfillment””