Author: Divorce Minister

Cheaters are active agents in choosing a hardened heart.

And Pharaoh hardened his heart at this time also, neither would he let the people go. -Exodus 8:32, KJV Cheaters become cheaters by going down “The Road of Bad Choices.” They have hard hearts because they have chosen to harden their hearts just as Pharaoh did. I make this point for two reasons: 1) I suspect … Continue reading “Cheaters are active agents in choosing a hardened heart.”

Loves little.

“Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” -Luke 7:47, NIV Did anyone here have a cheater (or cheater defender) who was dismissive of your offer–as the victim of the adultery–to forgive? This verse attributed to Jesus comes to mind … Continue reading “Loves little.”

Todd Bentley denounced by major charismatic leaders as morally unfit for leadership

Todd Bentley is a major figure in the Charismatic Christian world whose alleged sexual immorality has disqualified him for ministry leadership per others. The leaders who wrote did the investigation into the immorality allegations and made their report include Dr. Michael Brown, Joseph Mattera, James Goll, Jane Hamon, Bishop Harry Jackson, and Don Finto. Among … Continue reading “Todd Bentley denounced by major charismatic leaders as morally unfit for leadership”

Predisposed to disbelief of the evidence

I did not want to believe it. Who, in their right mind, would want to believe their spouse was secretly having sex with another?! This is important to note for faithful spouses. We are predisposed to disbelief. To believe even very concrete evidence of sexual infidelity means dealing with the reality that your world has … Continue reading “Predisposed to disbelief of the evidence”

What a decade! Happy New Year!!!

What a decade the 2010’s were for me! I never would have scripted these years for me in the way they went down. However, I am grateful for the ending days of that decade. At the start, I was still finishing up my seminary education at Yale while married to my cheater. The next couple … Continue reading “What a decade! Happy New Year!!!”

100,000+ Views of Divorce Minister Blog During 2019!

Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously garnered over 100,000 views this past year! This included over 40,000 unique individuals visiting the website from 165 different countries. The message shared here is still going strong even a world less and less driven by blog traffic. Thank you to those who continue visiting! I glad this ministry is … Continue reading “100,000+ Views of Divorce Minister Blog During 2019!”

Chapman on third party not being the cause….

“First, realize that the third person is never the full reason for separation. In fact, Guidepost 4 says that marital difficulty is caused by the marriage partners, not by someone outside the marriage….Your failures and those of your spouse brought about the crisis in your marriage.” -ONE MORE TRY by Gary Chapman, pp31-32. Oddly, I … Continue reading “Chapman on third party not being the cause….”