As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly. -Proverbs 26:11, NIV Within the Christian community, so much pressure is placed upon faithful spouses to “reconcile” with their cheating partners. Sometimes lip service is given to the importance that the cheater has actually changed and will not cheat again. However, the general … Continue reading “Possible. But likely? Doubt it.”
Author: Divorce Minister
Not responsible. Really.
Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. -James 1:14-15a, NLT (Emphasis mine) When seeking to retain my minister’s license, I was asked to explain what led to the breakdown of my marriage. To actually quote from the now defunct policy: “In your opinion, … Continue reading “Not responsible. Really.”
A Reminder Of God’s Love For You – A Song Blessing
The LORD thy God in the midst of thee is mighty; he will save, he will rejoice over thee with joy; he will rest in his love, he will joy over thee with singing. -Zephaniah 3:17, KJV When my divorce was coming and after it was fresh, I encountered the following song by artist, Jamie Grace. It … Continue reading “A Reminder Of God’s Love For You – A Song Blessing”
Lame Point: God never intended marriage to end in divorce.
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a … Continue reading “Lame Point: God never intended marriage to end in divorce.”
Conversion of Convenience
DM, One thing that I ran into while going to a Christian therapist was the Once Saved Always Saved teachings. I was told that since my “Christian X” refused repentance, restitution, and reconciliation that he was clearly never a Christian. Therefore, X doesn’t ever have to do the “three R’s”, he just needs to really … Continue reading “Conversion of Convenience”
Saying You Are Christian Is Not Enough!
“He that believes in the Son has everlasting life.” Is it enough, then, to believe in the Son,’ someone will say, ‘in order to have everlasting life?’ By no means! Listen to Christ declare this himself when he says, ‘Not everyone who says to me, “Lord! Lord!” shall enter into the kingdom of heaven’” -Early Church … Continue reading “Saying You Are Christian Is Not Enough!”
“Help! I am in an emotional affair.”
“But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” -Matthew 5:28, NLT What to do upon realizing a relationship has crossed the line into the realm of being an emotional affair? 1. The first step–and one of the hardest steps–is properly identifying the … Continue reading ““Help! I am in an emotional affair.””
On Trusting God
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. – Romans 15:13, NIV I would encourage you to use this verse as a prayer. Put your own name in the “you” slot and … Continue reading “On Trusting God”
Two Questions Behind the Questions
Two Questions Behind the Questions: 1. “Did you deserve the abandonment or being cheated on?” 2. “Did you learn your “lesson(s)” from being cheated on/divorced?” What a messed up world we live in where Christians are given a free pass to probe a soul rape victim with questions about what he or she has learned … Continue reading “Two Questions Behind the Questions”
A Jacked Up Past Is No Excuse
“You must not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NLT All sort of horrible things may have happened to a cheater in his or her own past. Their family of origin might have made the Adams’ family look like a picture of normality. It does not matter. God does not give out permission slips to commit adultery … Continue reading “A Jacked Up Past Is No Excuse”