Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us right standing with himself. Who then will condemn us? No one—for Christ Jesus died for us…. -Romans 8:33-34a, NLT What faithful spouses need more than spiritual advice are people willing to listen to them without condemnation. Faithful spouses are recovering … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Pastors, Faithful Spouses Need Condemnation Free Spaces”
Author: Divorce Minister
Not about the things, yet …
A practical reality of divorce is the necessity to divide up the marital “assets.” It is “just” things. Yet so much more… Now, I will confess that I am a bit sentimental about things. It is a “real” danger that I would become a cat hoarder in my old age left to my own devices. … Continue reading “Not about the things, yet …”
Grieve the death
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit.” -Psalm 34:18, NASB Metaphors, while being imperfect approximations, often can help us grasp difficult and complex truths conveying both intellectual and emotional freight with vivid imagery. Here’s my shot on explaining by metaphor why focusing on forgiveness first after adultery is cruel: Imagine you … Continue reading “Grieve the death”
When a business partnership ends…
When a business partnership ends, we do not necessarily assume one party is punishing the other. Now, I believe marriage is much more than a business partnership or general contract. It is a covenant. However, I do think it is helpful to think about the two together. It is helpful to correct thinking that choosing … Continue reading “When a business partnership ends…”
Cheater-Speak: “You never…. You never….”
For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints. – I Corinthians 14:33, KJV “You never ___ [fill in favorite grievance].” -Cheater When you hear something repeated enough times, it is hard to shake its message. You may know the statement to be false. In fact, … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “You never…. You never….””
God forgives me. Really?!
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me,” says “Christian” Cheater. “Really?! What work have … Continue reading “God forgives me. Really?!”
Cheating with the Nanny Situation
A local radio station dispenses relationship advice, today they had a former someone on the radio seeking advice about breaking off an affair with a married man. Here’s the audio file (click here). Situation: Jennie is a twenty year old who babysat for the kids of his dad’s friend. This started when she was fifteen … Continue reading “Cheating with the Nanny Situation”
If we always remain spiritually married to a living spouse, then…
When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. 2 And when … Continue reading “If we always remain spiritually married to a living spouse, then…”
Just do NOT engage!
Don’t answer the foolish arguments of fools, or you will become as foolish as they are. -Proverbs 26:4, NIV When dealing with a lying cheater, sometimes the best policy is simply to choose NOT to engage. You may find yourself arguing with a “fool” if you do engage. I know this is easier said than done. It … Continue reading “Just do NOT engage!”
Is Divorce Minister Making Divorce Permissive Society Problem Worse?
“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.” -Matthew 7:13-14, NIV Too Divorce Permissive? The Scripture’s take on divorce … Continue reading “Is Divorce Minister Making Divorce Permissive Society Problem Worse?”