“Betrayal: The Perfect Husband” is a three-part documentary on Hulu based on a podcast (“Betrayal: Season One”) on the same subject matter. The story follows one faithful spouse, Jen, and the story of her discovering her husband, Spencer, as both a cheater and criminal having sexually abused some of his high school students. The TV … Continue reading “Review of “Betrayal: The Perfect Husband””
“Stuck in Victimhood” Label
He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. -Micah 6:8, NIV Is it acting justly to shame infidelity victims for daring to voice the truth of being victimized? This is what can happen when … Continue reading ““Stuck in Victimhood” Label”
Monogamy is NOT the problem!
“…‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’…” -Matthew 19:5b, NKJV Monogamy–i.e. marriage–is NOT the problem! Even during the separation from my first wife, I understood this. I did not have a problem with the institution itself. My problem was … Continue reading “Monogamy is NOT the problem!”
Yep, more vicious when cheating
They demonstrate that God’s law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right. -Romans 2:15, NLT Sometimes cheaters become crueler to their spouses when they are actively engaged in infidelity. They cheat and attend couples counseling where they tell the counselor or … Continue reading “Yep, more vicious when cheating”
Cheater-Speak: “Well, God forgives me.”
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “Well, God forgives me,” says “Christian” Cheater. “Really? I wouldn’t … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “Well, God forgives me.””
Beware of Cheaters weaponizing therapy
Cheaters have no shame. So, it is no surprise that some Cheaters will use therapy* ideas to further attack the faithful spouse. This is especially true in situations where you have a bad therapist or pastor. In other words, some are so disordered that they will take tools discovered in the counseling session to further … Continue reading “Beware of Cheaters weaponizing therapy”
A slip of Truth
“But if you fail to do this, you will be sinning against the Lord; and you may be sure that your sin will find you out.” -Numbers 32:23, NIV A slip. An admission is made. The veil of lies is lifted for a brief moment of truth-telling. Then it is back to the old games of … Continue reading “A slip of Truth”
God’s problem waiting on God’s solution!
For hasn’t he promised you, “I will never leave you alone, never! And I will not loosen my grip on your life!” -Hebrews 13:5b, TPT A temptation when facing difficult circumstances is to believe we are on our own. It may feel that way, for sure. I know I felt it. The abandonment feelings are … Continue reading “God’s problem waiting on God’s solution!”
Please, do NOT take your cheater’s marriage advice!
Why do we take advice from an unrepentant cheater? I know I am not the only one who did. At least, I did this for a time. I opened myself up to her criticism as if she was qualified to identify “the problems.” This likely comes from a desperation to “save the marriage.” A solution … Continue reading “Please, do NOT take your cheater’s marriage advice!”
Beware of false hope
When I was going through the darkest part of my marriage dying, I really did not want the divorce. (As a side note, I am so grateful today that I was freed by that divorce. God has used Mrs. DM and Munchkin to restore the laughter in the halls of my heart.) A temptation I … Continue reading “Beware of false hope”