God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4b, NLT God is love…. -I John 4:16b, KJV If God does not condemn anything, can God real be loving? I do not think so. That is why I am grateful God does condemn adultery as evil (see Deut. 22:22). Such condemnation is … Continue reading “Glad God Condemns”
Still a virgin? Really?!
(Nora defines “fooling around” as beyond making out but short of intercourse—to her knowledge, Crist never engaged in intercourse so he could honestly say he was a virgin.) -Taylor Berglund, “John Crist Cancels 2019 Tour Dates After Reports of Sexting, Harassment, Manipulation” This sentence in the article about disgraced Christian Comedian John Crist caught my … Continue reading “Still a virgin? Really?!”
Christian Comedian John Crist Fiasco
Recently, news broke about a Christian comedian known for his parodies of the evangelical culture. John Crist canceled his tour to deal with a pattern of admitted sinful behavior towards women. If half of what is shared in the breaking article (click here) is true, Crist is a predator. The article shares stories of how … Continue reading “Christian Comedian John Crist Fiasco”
Joshua Harris on his divorce and leaving Christianity
Harris is very likable and humble in this interview. He gives some hints as to what was behind his marriage ending. Harris says, “…if you are living in unrepentant sin, then you have to be put out of the church. …. I excommunicated myself essentially.” Examples of what offenses might cause this excommunication: “Getting an … Continue reading “Joshua Harris on his divorce and leaving Christianity”
God going before!
“As soon as you hear the sound of marching in the tops of the poplar trees, move quickly, because that will mean the Lord has gone out in front of you to strike the Philistine army.” -2 Samuel 5:24, NIV When God has plans for you, He goes before you as He did for King David in this … Continue reading “God going before!”
That Cheater Cycle
Anyone recognize the following cycle? Cheat. Cheater says, “It was a ‘cry for help.’ [Insert favorite blame directed at faithful spouse].” Cheat, again. Cheater says, “Our marriage problems have nothing to do with [affair partner]. You know that you [insert favorite blame directed at faithful spouse].” Continues cheating. This cycle is nothing new. Cheaters do … Continue reading “That Cheater Cycle”
“Stuff happens” minimization
Me: “I got divorced. Then I had to go through a trial with my denomination to keep my license.” Friend: “Don’t they realize that stuff happens.” I do not recommend the “stuff happens” response to someone whose marriage has been blown up by adultery. While I appreciate this friend’s effort to be understanding, the stance … Continue reading ““Stuff happens” minimization”
PSA: Get STD Tested!
One of the most humiliating aspects of dealing with a cheater is this need to know. If a cheater is unwilling to submit to STD tests, then you have your answer as to how repentant they are–i.e. not at all. It is rather low hanging fruit–so to speak–for a cheater to provide scientifically verified assurance … Continue reading “PSA: Get STD Tested!”
Chuztpah of cheaters complaining about “communication”
“He never talks to me!” whines Cheater. I find it really rich that a cheater would complain about lack of communication from the faithful spouse. It takes a lot of prideful blindness to make such a complaint. Pure chutzpah! Remember: The cheater is perfectly fine not communicating with the faithful spouse how they are stealing … Continue reading “Chuztpah of cheaters complaining about “communication””
What if pastors and Christian counselors had “skin” in the game?
What if pastors and Christian counselors had to pay a faithful spouse $10,000 or more if they were wrong about the cheating being over?! In my opinion, faithful spouses who stay in marriages for subsequent infidelity discoveries are loosing more than just $10,000. They are loosing precious time, emotional well-being, and physical well-being (e.g. risk … Continue reading “What if pastors and Christian counselors had “skin” in the game?”