Cannot admit it to themselves even!

19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. -John 3:19-20, KJV I have a theory about why some cheaters refuse to … Continue reading “Cannot admit it to themselves even!”

God did not send the Other Woman (OW) to your husband!

God is never tempted to do wrong, and he never tempts anyone else. -James 1:13b, NLT God did not send the Other Woman/Man into your spouse’s life. It is sad that this even needs to be stated. However, I am sure plenty of readers here have heard their cheater try to blame their infidelity on … Continue reading “God did not send the Other Woman (OW) to your husband!”

Let the cheater leave!

But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. -I Corinthians 7:15, KJV Let the cheater leave! If a cheater is hell-bent on denying Christ by their actions, let them. This is on them. I see this … Continue reading “Let the cheater leave!”

Mailbag: Forgiveness Question

Hi, I have a question about forgiveness. Its clear in the scriptures that God doesn’t forgive unless a human repents, and repentance means to feel deep remorse AND stop the sin and go the other way. My X wife remains in her adulterous relationship. I believe that a human divorce does not make her relationship … Continue reading “Mailbag: Forgiveness Question”

…and then it all made sense…

Relief. The months of stone-cold or downright cruel responses. Warmth disappearing overnight like a Minnesotan May blizzard. It all started to make sense. I wasn’t imagining things. The Other Man. He existed. Had existed for months! This is one of the strangest and most surreal parts of discovering infidelity. The moment of confirmation is not only … Continue reading “…and then it all made sense…”

Yes, that happened. No, it is NOT your fault.

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “Yes, it happened. She cheated on you. And yes, you didn’t deserve it. It’s not your fault. Not at all.” You really want to help a faithful spouse. These … Continue reading “Yes, that happened. No, it is NOT your fault.”

Forgiveness as a test of faith in Jesus

From his temple he heard my voice;    my cry came before him, into his ears.The earth trembled and quaked,    and the foundations of the mountains shook;    they trembled because he was angry. -Psalm 18:6b-7, NIV Can I trust God with my hurt? I think the answer to this question answering the question of whether or not I can forgive someone … Continue reading “Forgiveness as a test of faith in Jesus”