Todd Bentley is a major figure in the Charismatic Christian world whose alleged sexual immorality has disqualified him for ministry leadership per others. The leaders who wrote did the investigation into the immorality allegations and made their report include Dr. Michael Brown, Joseph Mattera, James Goll, Jane Hamon, Bishop Harry Jackson, and Don Finto. Among … Continue reading “Todd Bentley denounced by major charismatic leaders as morally unfit for leadership”
Predisposed to disbelief of the evidence
I did not want to believe it. Who, in their right mind, would want to believe their spouse was secretly having sex with another?! This is important to note for faithful spouses. We are predisposed to disbelief. To believe even very concrete evidence of sexual infidelity means dealing with the reality that your world has … Continue reading “Predisposed to disbelief of the evidence”
What a decade! Happy New Year!!!
What a decade the 2010’s were for me! I never would have scripted these years for me in the way they went down. However, I am grateful for the ending days of that decade. At the start, I was still finishing up my seminary education at Yale while married to my cheater. The next couple … Continue reading “What a decade! Happy New Year!!!”
100,000+ Views of Divorce Minister Blog During 2019!
Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously garnered over 100,000 views this past year! This included over 40,000 unique individuals visiting the website from 165 different countries. The message shared here is still going strong even a world less and less driven by blog traffic. Thank you to those who continue visiting! I glad this ministry is … Continue reading “100,000+ Views of Divorce Minister Blog During 2019!”
Chapman on third party not being the cause….
“First, realize that the third person is never the full reason for separation. In fact, Guidepost 4 says that marital difficulty is caused by the marriage partners, not by someone outside the marriage….Your failures and those of your spouse brought about the crisis in your marriage.” -ONE MORE TRY by Gary Chapman, pp31-32. Oddly, I … Continue reading “Chapman on third party not being the cause….”
Enough!
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV When dealing with cheaters, I believe a spiritual dimension is at work and this dimension is darkly evil. A temptation for faithful spouses during this time is to cave to … Continue reading “Enough!”
Song to encourage
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. -Isaiah 40:31, KJV Dealing with abandonment and infidelity is exhausting. One of the songs I would return to for encouragement during the dark season of my … Continue reading “Song to encourage”
Taking care of self
When I was going through the deep valley of separation, adultery discovery, and divorce, I had to make conscience decisions to take care of myself. The grief is that extreme. For me, I had to remind myself to eat. If I did not do this, then I would not have eaten at all during that … Continue reading “Taking care of self”
Over that line, big time!
Have you ever done a “mind map?” As I remember them from grade school, this is a brainstorming tool where one has a main idea in a bubble then related ideas connected to that bubble to form a web like picture. I know of a situation involving a cheater who utilized this tool to figure … Continue reading “Over that line, big time!”
Christmas and Busy Angels
And being warned of God in a dream that they should not return to Herod, they departed into their own country another way. -Matthew 2:12, KJV When Jesus was vulnerable as a baby, we see a battle to end his life and God sending His angels to preserve Him. God still operates in this way. … Continue reading “Christmas and Busy Angels”