Dear Divorce Minister, I was married to a minister for 21 years. I knew after a year of marriage that my marriage was over as he was cheating on me with a high school student. When I confronted him, the narcissistic abuse began and continued until he asked for a divorce after he got caught … Continue reading “DM, Why do they still support the cheater?”
Frustrated over your circumstances? Give thanks.
Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. -I Thessalonians 5:18, NLT Ever notice how often we take our own health for granted until we get sick? Maybe it is only me who does this? But I doubt it. Focusing on what we do NOT have … Continue reading “Frustrated over your circumstances? Give thanks.”
PSA: Parents’ and In-Laws’ place is OUTSIDE of the marriage bed!
Some cheaters and their supporters have no shame. This seems especially true of the parents’ of some cheaters. They are willing to offer incredibly unhelpful and inappropriate advice to their daughter/son-in-law. Public Service Announcement: Dispensing unsolicited advice about the frequency (or “quality”) of a couple’s sex-life is a matter that no parent or in-law ought to … Continue reading “PSA: Parents’ and In-Laws’ place is OUTSIDE of the marriage bed!”
Violation of Boundaries and Advice
After the Lord had said these things to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite, “I am angry with you and your two friends, because you have not spoken the truth about me, as my servant Job has. -Job 42:7, NIV Ever had that “friend” who got furious with you because you did not do whatever they told … Continue reading “Violation of Boundaries and Advice”
Pastors as spiritual advisers, NOT dictators!
11 No one can know a person’s thoughts except that person’s own spirit, and no one can know God’s thoughts except God’s own Spirit. 12 And we have received God’s Spirit (not the world’s spirit), so we can know the wonderful things God has freely given us. -1 Corinthians 2:11-12, NLT A good pastor understands he (or … Continue reading “Pastors as spiritual advisers, NOT dictators!”
Divorce Minister, Can you help?
Hi, I need help addressing my elders in my church regarding adultery. My husband had an affair with another member. I caught him, he was sorry. The pastor had the girl apologize and say she wouldn’t contact my husband again. It was very hard, but I forgave my husband, and we tried to work … Continue reading “Divorce Minister, Can you help?”
When dealing with faithlessness, remember God is FAITHFUL!
For all the promises of God in him are yea, and in him Amen, unto the glory of God by us. 2 Corinthians 1:20, KJV Today, I am sharing another song. May its words encourage you. Make it a prayer in faith. You might be going through a dark time, but never forget that God is a … Continue reading “When dealing with faithlessness, remember God is FAITHFUL!”
Cheaters and liars in dangerous waters
Such teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron. -I Timothy 4:2, NIV What happens when we walk into a body of cold water? It usually feels really cold initially. However, as we wait and stay in the water, our legs become numb to the temperatures. It … Continue reading “Cheaters and liars in dangerous waters”
Ambiguous Loss Article
Today, I came across an article (click here) that labels divorce as an “ambiguous loss.” When I saw the article, I thought of how having a name for it might help some who read here. To be clear, I do not agree with the advice the author gives to the person who made the advice … Continue reading “Ambiguous Loss Article”
Forgiveness begins with acknowledgment of wrong
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” -I John 1:9, KJV What good is forgiveness to someone who does not think he or she did anything wrong? It is worthless. They are not in bondage to a conscience warning them … Continue reading “Forgiveness begins with acknowledgment of wrong”