Cheater-Speak: “I am not divorcing you for that [the affair].”

“Yes, I had a sexual relationship with him. But I am not divorcing you for that.” -Cheater A cheater from a religious background might say some drivel like this in a last ditch attempt to rescue her reputation. They know people–especially if their religion condemns it–generally frown upon adultery. So, they are trying to distract … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I am not divorcing you for that [the affair].””

Worst piece of advice given to me was …

“Contend with your mother, contend, For she is not my wife, and I am not her husband; And let her put away her harlotry from her face And her adultery from between her breasts…” -Hosea 2:2, NASB While I do not mind the end result–the merciful divorce paving the way to my marriage to Mrs. DM–I am still … Continue reading “Worst piece of advice given to me was …”

What Divorce Minister Is.

  When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. -Matthew 9:36, NIV Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously Critics of me and this blog often have the wrong picture of what this website is (By the way, thank you to all those who wrote … Continue reading “What Divorce Minister Is.”

When One Spouse Loves Money…

For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. -I Timothy 6:10, KJV When one spouse loves money, watch out! If you have ever done pre-marital counseling or read such materials, you will find they … Continue reading “When One Spouse Loves Money…”

The troubles of this life do not win. Jesus does.

“In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” -Jesus in John 16:33b, NIV Whatever the trouble we may facing, we have these words of comfort from Jesus. The world does not win! It soothes my anxieties to remember this truth. While Jesus promises that we will experience trouble in this … Continue reading “The troubles of this life do not win. Jesus does.”

Not Everyone Is Worthy of Knowing

Then he ordered his disciples not to tell anyone that he was the Messiah. -Matthew 16:20, NIV This verse follows Peter’s confession of Jesus’ true identity. And much wisdom resides in this charge from Jesus. Sometimes keeping an important truth about our identity secret is wise. To use Clinical Pastoral Education language, one of my … Continue reading “Not Everyone Is Worthy of Knowing”

Sexual Abuse Survivor Takes Abuser To “Church” In Testimony!

In the sentencing hearing for abuser Larry Nasser, Rachel Denhollander–one of his victims when she was a gymnast on Team USA with whom Nasser was the doctor–made a powerful statement. WARNING: It is graphic at parts. Here is a video of her testimony: CNN transcribed this interview in total (link here). In her testimony, she … Continue reading “Sexual Abuse Survivor Takes Abuser To “Church” In Testimony!”

Asking Readers: What has Divorce Minister meant to you?

Asking Readers: What has Divorce Minister meant to you? Since starting this blog about four years ago, I have experienced pressure to shut it down from time to time. People apparently find my core message here: “Taking Adultery Seriously” offensive. Who knew a spiritual leader teaching we should ACTUALLY live by the Ten Commandments would … Continue reading “Asking Readers: What has Divorce Minister meant to you?”