For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. -2 Timothy 4:3, NIV Before discovery or even after discovery of an affair, you might experience … Continue reading “Will not repent even in the face of counter evidence”
Just a photo
It was just a photo. I saw a picture of an old “friend” who chose my Cheater and turned against me in the end. One photo brought back all sorts of feelings. Mostly, it brought back grief. My last contact with this couple was a text from the husband on the day that my divorce … Continue reading “Just a photo”
Indifference to injustice is ungodly!
For the Lord is righteous, he loves justice…. -Psalm 11:7a, NIV Caring for faithful spouses is a justice issue, in my opinion. I know many issues in this world are related to the imbalance of justice. Adultery and adultery victims are not the only ones suffering from a world run through with injustice. Yet they are suffering injustices. If … Continue reading “Indifference to injustice is ungodly!”
Perfection not required!
10 “‘If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife—with the wife of his neighbor—both the adulterer and the adulteress are to be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NIV After discovering adultery, the faithful spouse’s performance as a spouse is often put under the microscope. We, faithful spouse, might do it ourselves trying to make sense … Continue reading “Perfection not required!”
Bad Advice: “Love her back!”
“Rebuke your mother, rebuke her, for she is not my wife, and I am not her husband. Let her remove the adulterous look from her face and the unfaithfulness from between her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2, NIV Love her back! So often, this advice is what is given as the “Christian” answer to marital infidelity. It is an … Continue reading “Bad Advice: “Love her back!””
Growing in gratitude
Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? -Matthew 6:26, NKJV The discipline of gratitude is the secret to an abundant life. Of this, I am convinced. Grateful people do not live … Continue reading “Growing in gratitude”
Yes, phone sex IS cheating!
Yes, phone sex IS cheating! This ought to be obvious from the actual subject. While “Phone sex” does not involve direct physical contact, it certainly crosses the line emotionally as far as “forsaking all others” is concerned. But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of … Continue reading “Yes, phone sex IS cheating!”
God’s merciful release
In his mercy, God knew I probably would have held onto my first marriage well beyond what was good for me. So, my ex filed on me, and I decided fighting the divorce was not worth it. I was not going to fight against a divorce that my Cheater was seeking. That was her choice–yet … Continue reading “God’s merciful release”
Unwanted–initially–path
“…when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.” -John 21:18b, NIV Unfortunately, I was the first. Somehow, my huge family had never experienced a divorce on either side of the immediate family. But I became the first … Continue reading “Unwanted–initially–path”
Letting in Jesus’ love
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” -John 13:34, NIV How good are you in letting in Jesus’ love? I think this is the question when it comes to spiritual health. We were made for love as God is love (see I John 4:16). … Continue reading “Letting in Jesus’ love”