For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. – 2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT You are NOT responsible for your Cheater’s sins. Period. If you are like me, you will encounter all sort of people … Continue reading “Not even partially your fault.”
Cowardly Abdication of Pastoral Role
So I will rescue my flock, and they will no longer be abused. I will judge between one animal of the flock and another. -Ezekiel 34:22, NLT Cowardly Abdication of Pastoral Role Sadly, it is rare to find a pastor willing to hold a cheater to account for their abusive behavior. Far more common, you … Continue reading “Cowardly Abdication of Pastoral Role”
What is more likely?
32 Then the king called in the man he had forgiven and said, ‘You evil servant! I forgave you that tremendous debt because you pleaded with me. 33 Shouldn’t you have mercy on your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you?’ -Matthew 18:32-33, NLT What is more likely? Jesus added burdens to the already overburdened victim … Continue reading “What is more likely?”
More hearts
Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words. -Job 2:13, NIV Just as the wedding day is a family event, the adultery discovery and divorce are felt by the same family as … Continue reading “More hearts”
Sadness for a season
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: ….a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance… -Ecclesiastes 3:1,4, NIV I remember fearing I would be crying forever when my life blew up around my (now) ex-wife’s abandonment and … Continue reading “Sadness for a season”
YOUR call!
“And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful.” -Matthew 19:9, NLT Whether you stay or choose divorce is YOUR call! Not mine. Not your pastor’s. Not your therapist’s. YOUR call! I think it is important to take responsibility for our choices and not … Continue reading “YOUR call!”
Sane Voices
Wisdom will save you from evil people, from those whose words are twisted. -Proverbs 2:12, NLT When going through infidelity discovery, faithful spouses need wisdom. We need sane voices as the situation is maddening. I went through my infidelity discovery experience in my late 20s and look back now in my 40s wishing someone with … Continue reading “Sane Voices”
We had “opportunity” too!
24 It will keep you from the immoral woman, from the smooth tongue of a promiscuous woman. 25 Don’t lust for her beauty. Don’t let her coy glances seduce you. -Proverbs 6:24-25, NLT We had opportunity, too! That is the thing about people with character. They do NOT give into temptation. Their vows means something to them. … Continue reading “We had “opportunity” too!”
Ready, Not Forgiven
For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive, And abundant in mercy to all those who call upon You. -Psalm 86:5, NKJV “God is ready to forgive.” -Diane Langberg, Ph.D. I was on an online event today where Dr. Diane Langberg spoke. She brought this point up about forgiveness as a point about God’s forgiveness. The idea … Continue reading “Ready, Not Forgiven”
Self-serving Scruples
This made the Pharisees and teachers of religious law complain that he was associating with such sinful people—even eating with them! -Luke 15:2, NLT Funny how cheaters and their apologists will appeal to “Christian” ideals when it serves them. As soon as you point out their need to repent, they try to change the subject … Continue reading “Self-serving Scruples”