“I’m tired of pretending. I just need a break from our marriage,” says Cheater. “So, you want to pretend you aren’t married when you are? That’s not how our marriage vows work,” replies faithful spouse. Cheaters might ask for “a break” as if your marriage is just an extended period of dating. Such statements reinforce … Continue reading ““I just need a break from our marriage.””
Do not go on the ride
To heal, we have to acknowledge the truth. The sad thing is our cheater may never actually do this. They might engage you in an endless battle over getting you to take responsibility for their abuse of you. That argument is one crazy ride. Refuse to take the bait. While helpful, you do not have … Continue reading “Do not go on the ride”
Pro-Tip: Not talking positive is a sign of discard in progress
When a cheater is done with you, they might refuse to talk about what they enjoy about being married to you. This makes it easier on them both to cheat on you and to discard you. After all, the positives would remind them of real losses that come with the ending of the marriage. Such … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Not talking positive is a sign of discard in progress”
Cheater speaking…
“I don’t love you anymore.” “I feel like we are just roommates.” “I need space.” Have you heard any of these “gems” come out of your cheater’s mouth? Maybe they spoke such words before you knew they were cheating on you? That would make sense. As these words are designed to hide their dastardly behavior … Continue reading “Cheater speaking…”
Fun song!
Sometimes, we just need to blow off steam. Here’s an honest take on that by Tyler Childers “Bitin’ List:”
Friends behave like friends.
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need. -Proverbs 17:17, NLT A friend behaves like a friend. I know this sounds straight forward, but we need to hear it sometimes when tempted to make excuses for some people. Just because someone claims the title “friend” for themselves … Continue reading “Friends behave like friends.”
Hate being lied to
When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies. -John 8:44b, NLT I hate being lied to. In other words, I don’t like being manipulated because that is what being lied to is about–namely, manipulation. Someone who lies to you is trying to manipulate you. … Continue reading “Hate being lied to”
In love with darkness
…men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. -John 3:19b-20, NKJV Cheaters do not want their lies exposed. They will go through all sort of contortions to keep control of the narrative where they … Continue reading “In love with darkness”
Rescue Animals
What is the price of two sparrows—one copper coin? But not a single sparrow can fall to the ground without your Father knowing it. -Matthew 10:29, NLT God cares for all of His creation. We are far more capable than the birds of the air. Yet God figures out how to care for them as … Continue reading “Rescue Animals”
Much loved pets
I am a sucker for getting pets. We got another parrot shortly after our wedding anniversary. That brings our “flock” to three.* The latest is a talkative Jardine parrot. He is very beautiful and funny when he talks. An example is when he says, “Ooops” if his claws slip while walking on the newspaper. And … Continue reading “Much loved pets”