How could I have missed that?! I do not know if you can relate to asking this question of yourself. However, I think the fractured relationship with oneself is a relationship almost always needing attention. Part of the devastation of discovering a cheating spouse is discovering the deception was ongoing for a long period of time, … Continue reading “Rebuilding Self”
Unexpected Fulfillment
24 He saw an Egyptian mistreating an Israelite. So Moses came to the man’s defense and avenged him, killing the Egyptian. 25 Moses assumed his fellow Israelites would realize that God had sent him to rescue them, but they didn’t. Acts 7:24-25, NLT God’s timing and ways are not our ways. What I find interesting about this story … Continue reading “Unexpected Fulfillment”
Unloved issue
21 Under three things the earth quakes, And under four, it cannot bear up: … 23 Under an unloved woman when she gets a husband, And a maidservant when she supplants her mistress. -Proverbs 30:21, 23, NASB (emphasis mine) I can still picture the moment… We had just moved into our first home we bought together, and … Continue reading “Unloved issue”
Enough to know it is an iceberg of cheating and lies
When dealing with a cheater who has lived a double life for months (or years), you likely only know a small part of the deception and infidelity. They have been at this deception for a while. What you know now is a fractured partial of the story, and they have demonstrated an unwillingness to clue … Continue reading “Enough to know it is an iceberg of cheating and lies”
Life is too short
15 Our days on earth are like grass; like wildflowers, we bloom and die. 16 The wind blows, and we are gone— as though we had never been here. -Psalm 103:15-16, NLT Life is too short to argue with a cheater. Do not waste your precious time arguing over your worth. You should not have to explain … Continue reading “Life is too short”
Chosen as a friend
“Now you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me. You didn’t choose me. I chose you.” -John 15:15b-16a, NLT I think one of the most endearing part of owning a dog (or parrot, in my case) is how they demonstrate how much they choose and want you! In this, they are … Continue reading “Chosen as a friend”
Failed Basic Moral Education
“You shall not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NIV I am astounded by how greatly some people fail to maintain even a basic level of morality. Cheaters are one group in this category. It is not enough to harm their spouse through deception. Rather, they feel entitled to further abuse them in pastor and therapist offices … Continue reading “Failed Basic Moral Education”
Don’t feed their contempt
Here is the deceptive way of the adulterous woman: she takes what she wants and then says, “I’ve done nothing wrong.” -Proverbs 30:20, TPT While I believe we can all learn from our mistakes and sins in a relationship, I caution against the counsel to own our marriage sins with a cheater in active infidelity. … Continue reading “Don’t feed their contempt”
Wicked Prospering
In this life, good people are often treated as though they were wicked, and wicked people are often treated as though they were good. This is so meaningless! -Ecclesiastes 8:14b, NLT These words seem like they were written today and not as they were–i.e. thousands of years earlier! I bet many here can relate to … Continue reading “Wicked Prospering”
Dangerous Partial Truths
One day he [the serpent] asked the woman, “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?” Genesis 3:1b, NLT Partial truth lies are the most dangerous. We see the example of this here in the story of how humans sinned and fell from grace. The … Continue reading “Dangerous Partial Truths”