Ten years. Today, I would have been married ten years. But different plans were in the works…. God has taken the shipwreck of my first marriage and built a new, better life out of the reclaimed wood. I am so thankful for the new life He has given me. God has truly been my Vindication. The … Continue reading “Another Anniversary–God Vindicates!”
Forgiveness: A Drywall Parable
The Drywall Parable: Sam and Sue were having a disagreement over the color of the drapes. Sam got so overheated in the disagreement that he put his fist through the drywall next to Sue’s head. Later, he apologized for loosing his temper and punching a hole in the wall. Sue told him that she forgave … Continue reading “Forgiveness: A Drywall Parable”
The Difficulty in Forgiving
Unforgiveness is rooted in the fear that God will not repay evil according to justice. -International House of Prayer This quote from a Christian organization out of Kansas City hit home for me. In just a mere fifteen words, they cut to the heart of the struggle to forgive. This is really a question about … Continue reading “The Difficulty in Forgiving”
Answering Well-Meaning Busybody Christians
“Sure, he cheated. But what was your part in all of that?” – Well-Meaning, Busybody Christian If you are a faithful spouse having gone through or going through a divorce, you likely have encountered this person: The Well-Meaning, Busybody Christian. Oblivious to how hurtful their comments and questions are, these individuals actually believe they are doing faithful spouses … Continue reading “Answering Well-Meaning Busybody Christians”
Thankful
In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. -I Thessalonians 5;18, KJV Much wisdom is in this little song from my childhood. Giving thanks for the gifts God has given us even while feeling discouraged, anxious, or depressed seems to help. At least, I have found … Continue reading “Thankful”
A Tale of Two Weddings
“You have made my heart beat faster, my sister, my bride; You have made my heart beat faster with a single glance of your eyes, With a single strand of your necklace.” -Song of Songs 4:9, NASB These words better fit my second wedding day than my first. It should have been a clear warning … Continue reading “A Tale of Two Weddings”
PSA: Christians, Stop Blaming Adultery Victims For Divorces!
And I saw that for all the adulteries of faithless Israel, I had sent her away and given her a writ of divorce, yet her treacherous sister Judah did not fear; but she went and was a harlot also. -Jeremiah 3:8, NASB Is God to be blamed for His divorce of Israel here in Jeremiah … Continue reading “PSA: Christians, Stop Blaming Adultery Victims For Divorces!”
Cheater-speak: “Let’s not talk about that. It is in the past.”
“It is in the past.” – Cheater But is “it” really in the past? The effects and consequences of the cheating are very much in the present. -A late night “at the office.” -Another “business” trip. -That song on the radio. -A strange charge on the credit card. -An unknown phone number calling your spouse’s cell. … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “Let’s not talk about that. It is in the past.””
Mailbag: Feeling torn between divorce and staying for the kids
I wonder if you could write on topic that deals with clash of emotions/feelings being a coward for allowing unfaithful partner back into our life without much consequences and at same time feeling like traitor to kids if choosing divorce instead. -Broken_Hurt Dear Broken_Hurt, It is not a betrayal of your children to act … Continue reading “Mailbag: Feeling torn between divorce and staying for the kids”
I knew, but didn’t…
Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. -Psalm 139:16, NIV I start today’s post from this famous Psalm to make a point: Knowing is not the same thing as condoning or causing a behavior! God knew all of … Continue reading “I knew, but didn’t…”