Public Service Announcement (PSA): It is not abuse to insist the cheater end the affair! Someone needs to see this. Cheaters will pull out all stops to make the faithful spouse look like the bad person. Insisting the affair end is a healthy boundary. It is respectful. You are simply refusing to accept ongoing abuse … Continue reading “PSA: Insisting affair ends is NOT abuse!”
An excuse to abuse? No, none.
I am convinced adultery is always abusive. Always. You cannot cheat on a spouse without abusing their trust minimally. Plus, I have yet to discover a story involving adultery where a period of deception did not take place–however, brief. In addition to that, I believe based on my reading of Scripture that adultery is soul … Continue reading “An excuse to abuse? No, none.”
Bar hopping without you
Bar hopping without you Cheating starts in the heart (see Mark 7:21-23). This is what we know from Jesus’ own teaching on sin. Before the illicit kisses and sex, some cheaters may have engaged in behavior best described as “single” behavior. They went to the bars and welcomed the attention of the opposite sex (if … Continue reading “Bar hopping without you”
Allure of Premature Forgiveness
…and if you see him going the wrong direction, cry out and correct him. If there is true repentance on his part, forgive him. -Luke 17:3, TPT What I find interesting is how much advice is given about forgiveness for faithful spouses as if this is the hardest part–convincing faithful spouses to forgive. I don’t … Continue reading “Allure of Premature Forgiveness”
Choose One: Good Christian or Cheater. Not both.
Good Christian or Cheater? You choose. You don’t get both. “Christian” cheaters hate having their infidelity exposed. They despise the inconvenience it causes them. It shatters their image as a “good Christian” for anyone with a modicum of theological sense…as it ought to. The thing is that a cheater must choose between their life of lies and … Continue reading “Choose One: Good Christian or Cheater. Not both.”
Circle of friends
“You could do so much better than him,” says Enabler. It starts with their “friends.” Cheaters often surround themselves with “friends” who are not supportive of their marriage. In fact, they encourage damaging behavior and contempt for the faithful spouse. It should not shock us, faithful spouses, when we learn that these “friends” were covering … Continue reading “Circle of friends”
Obligation to tell
“If you sin by not stepping up and offering yourself as a witness to something you’ve heard or seen in cases of wrongdoing, you’ll be held responsible.” -Leviticus 5:1, MSG Is adultery wrong? Yes, it is sin. So, if you see someone cheating on their spouse, you are obligated to let them know and not … Continue reading “Obligation to tell”
Da Light BURNS!!!
All who do evil hate the light and refuse to go near it for fear their sins will be exposed. -John 3:20, NLT If a cheater has anything of a conscience left, they will be in extreme pain when their actions are exposed for the sin and evil they are. Cheaters committed to their sin … Continue reading “Da Light BURNS!!!”
Cheater-speak: “I’m a good Christian.”
Anyone who continues to live in him will not sin. But anyone who keeps on sinning does not know him or understand who he is. -I John 3:6, NLT “I’m a good Christian,” declares deceived Cheater. Some might make this statement to seek validation from you or others. They are saying it as a test … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “I’m a good Christian.””
Cheater-Speak: “I feel like God is calling me to….”
2 And he said, “Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest, and get thee into the land of Moriah; and offer him there for a burnt offering upon one of the mountains which I will tell thee of.” Genesis 22:2, KJV Cheaters are engaging in self-deception when they decide God is calling … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I feel like God is calling me to….””