This past week I was blessed to spend time up at a cabin in Northern Minnesota. It was a wonderful time of memory making and relaxation with family.
When I was driving back home yesterday, I was listening to an audio book. In particular, I am going through When Narcissism Comes to Church: Healing Your Community From Emotional and Spiritual Abuse by Chuck DeGroat. (I would recommend it–link here.)
I was struck by a particular quote in the book. DeGroat quotes another author, Peter Levine, from his work, In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness:
“Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness.”
The website and ministry is my attempt to be or facilitate others to be that empathetic witness for fellow faithful spouses. The words from the quote ring very true about the trauma of soul rape. We need people to hear us and feel with us as oppose to judge and condemn us.
