“I’m afraid of him,” she–aka the cheater–says.
This like a blank check that a female cheater can cash in at anytime for sympathy and support from pastors and therapists alike. Most do not bother to ask any followup questions as to why she is claiming such fear.
If they do, they might get:
“I’m afraid, because he is a big, football guy.”
Or
“I’m afraid, because he owns a gun.”
The fact of being a large man alone does not make one necessarily a real threat.
However, most counselors and pastors will take that information as enough to condemn the faithful husband and aid the cheater in justifying a less accountable lifestyle apart from her husband.
The fact of owning a gun does not make the husband necessarily a threat either.
However, most counselors and pastors will take that information as enough to condemn the faithful spouse and aid the cheater in justifying a less accountable lifestyle apart from her husband.
All of these are tactics cheaters can use to manipulate others into supporting them.
They prey upon sensible folks who are aware that some large men are physically dangerous to their spouses, and some gun owners pose a great threat to their spouses. That is the truly sickening thing about this sort of manipulation.
Like manipulating the trust of their spouse, the cheater is manipulating the compassion and goodwill of others for their own benefit.
Some are THAT sick. They do not care how it undermines care for true victims or potential victims. Such cheaters are just THAT selfish!
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*A version of this post ran previously.
