Divorce Minister is Rev. David. I am an ordained minister and professional chaplain. I have survived the infidelity of my first wife, divorce, and an ecclesiastical trial to retain my minister’s license following my divorce. The pain of infidelity compounded by toxic “Christianity” is something with which I am all too familiar. More importantly, though, I know God’s personal love and regard for me as His beloved son!
Academically, I hold degrees from Carleton College in philosophy and a Master of Divinity from Yale University. Also, I completed five units of Clinical Pastoral Education (CPE) including a full year residency in this intensive form of training that helps pastors specialize in giving competent pastoral care in healthcare settings. Furthermore, I am currently a Board Certified Chaplain (BCC), which means I have met the professional gold standards set for the field of chaplaincy in providing emotional and spiritual care with excellence.
I write this blog to be a resource to break the silence on a much misunderstood issue in the evangelical church as well as to support those who have experienced a spouse’s infidelity and/or divorce.
On this blog the terms “infidelity” and “affairs” encompass both sexual and emotional cheating (this is the same stance as the AAMFT, Focus on the Family, WebMD, Dr. Phil and other infidelity blogs/forums). Adultery is reserved for sexual affairs. My conviction and experience is God’s good news is good news to those who find themselves in the valleys of infidelity discovery and divorce. He is ever near the brokenhearted!
And as a testimony to God’s faithfulness and greatness, God made beauty out of the ashes of my dark night in the valley. Almost two years to the day that my first wife abandoned me chasing after other men, I happily married a beautiful woman who values my heart and loves the Lord.
Mrs. DM is bilingual in Spanish, holds a Master’s in Early Childhood Education and has quite a few half marathons and full marathons under her belt. In addition to that, I am now a father to her young daughter who is truly the delight of my life.
And if that was not enough, God has blessed me professionally as well. I am the head of the spiritual care department for a multi-site, senior living, faith-based company in my home state of Minnesota. It s a job where I have the joy of representing God with compassion to family members, staff, and residents.
So, I can and will testify through my life story to the truth of Jesus’ words in the Sermon on the Mount (Mt 5:4, NASB):
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.”
Yes and amen.