So this was the plan they followed. Ezra selected leaders to represent their families, designating each of the representatives by name. On December 29, the leaders sat down to investigate the matter. By March 27, the first day of the new year, they had finished dealing with all the men who had married pagan wives. These are the priests … Continue reading “Reminder: Gospel Witness and Divorce”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Dear DM, I read Piper’s book and thought I had to stay in my marriage.
Hi DM – Today was rough for me. A woman at my church asked how I was, and I answered where things are at…awful and that court is next month. Once she learned we were actually divorcing and not just staying separated she shared her stand that divorce is always sin, and how God hates … Continue reading “Dear DM, I read Piper’s book and thought I had to stay in my marriage.”
Father’s Day: SOO thankful for my dad!
Children’s children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers. -Proverbs 17:6, KJV When my world fell apart, my dad was there (along with my mother) to support me and provide a place to land as I put the pieces of my shattered life back together. I spent countless … Continue reading “Father’s Day: SOO thankful for my dad!”
PSA: The Doormat Is NOT the High Ground!
I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world. But now I am writing to you that you must not associate … Continue reading “PSA: The Doormat Is NOT the High Ground!”
Lysa TerKeurst Deals With Husband’s Infidelity
“My husband, life partner and father of my children, Art TerKeurst, has been repeatedly unfaithful to me with a woman he met online, bringing an end to our marriage of almost 25 years….I don’t share this to harm or embarrass him, but to help explain why I have decided to separate from him and pursue … Continue reading “Lysa TerKeurst Deals With Husband’s Infidelity”
Adultery Is a Bigger Problem Than Just One Sexual Act!
“‘But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what defile a person….’” – Jesus in Matthew 15:18-20a, NIV. While one act of adultery is horrible enough, I suspect … Continue reading “Adultery Is a Bigger Problem Than Just One Sexual Act!”
Shake Off Their Dust!
And whosoever will not receive you, when ye go out of that city, shake off the very dust from your feet for a testimony against them. -Luke 9:5, KJV Jesus gave us a ministry of reconciliation (see 2 Corinthians 5:18), yet Jesus told His Disciples to move on if this ministry was rejected! Cheaters reject godly reconciliation … Continue reading “Shake Off Their Dust!”
My Evangelical Marriage Helpline Experience
Calling the Focus on the Family® Helpline When the Other Man was revealed to me, I called a helpline to figure out my next steps. Specifically, I called the Focus on the Family® Helpline (1-855-771-HELP (4357)). It actually was supportive for me. My mother had called earlier and had a very bad experience with the … Continue reading “My Evangelical Marriage Helpline Experience”
My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?
“My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?” -Matthew 27:46b, KJV When I was struggling the most, these words from Jesus brought me the greatest comfort. They were reminders to me that God understood the pain and suffering that I was enduring. He could relate. Jesus understands what it meant to suffer unjustly. Jesus understands … Continue reading “My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?”
Two Practical Strategies for Peace
“…and the truth shall make you free.” -John 8:32b, KJV Two Practical Strategies for Peace When I was recovering from my divorce from my cheater, two particular strategies helped me the most. 1. Identify the “handles,” “triggers,” or otherwise unwanted labels/identities that you vehemently are trying to avoid. An effective manipulator is able to hone … Continue reading “Two Practical Strategies for Peace”