Category: Trauma of adultery

New Book Resource: UNFOLD

Dear Readers, Recently, I was contacted by a blog reader who wrote a book about her experience. I asked her to write up a little blurb about her book and promised to post it on my website. Below it a link to her book (just click on the book image) and the little blurb she … Continue reading “New Book Resource: UNFOLD”

Cheater-Speak: “I was just trying to get your attention.”

“I was just trying to get your attention. That is all that this affair is about.” -Cheater This is another diversionary trick Cheaters do. They drop a line like this and watch as counselors and/or pastors divert their attention away from the affair towards the faithful spouse’s “flaws.” Sadly, this ploy has a reasonable chance … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I was just trying to get your attention.””

Mailbag: Are there physical judgments on cheaters?

DM, I really appreciate your blog, and I’m so glad I found it. You are a voice of reason in a wilderness of bad theology. You’d think people, including pastors, don’t actually read the Bible anymore. My question for you concerns other consequences that arise from adultery even though it was never properly addressed when … Continue reading “Mailbag: Are there physical judgments on cheaters?”

Cheater’s “Grace” as “Cheap Grace”

…cheap grace — “the preaching of forgiveness without requiring repentance.” Cheap grace wrongly separates absolution of sin from acknowledgment of that sin. -Katelyn Beaty, “The Mistake Christians Made in Defending Bill O’Reilly Cheaters and “cheap grace” Beaty’s article takes aim at some prominent conservatives and evangelical leaders. In particular, her article exposes the hypocrisy of … Continue reading “Cheater’s “Grace” as “Cheap Grace””

Triggering Advice: Husbands ought to “die” for their wives like Christ did the Church.

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her…. -Ephesians 5:25, NLT When I hear this verse cited by Evangelicals, I shudder internally.  This is a highly abused text. Evangelicals often use this as a proof text to control husbands. Obviously, this text teaches … Continue reading “Triggering Advice: Husbands ought to “die” for their wives like Christ did the Church.”

The Disconnect

Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?”  -Malachi 2:13-14a, NIV The disconnect between what some “Christians” say and do is astounding. -A cheater apologist can talk about righteous living while turning a … Continue reading “The Disconnect”

Adultery is the main event, NOT a “regrettable footnote” to the marriage’s demise.

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV How can you miss it that bad?! How can someone read and understand the Bible yet treat adultery as a “regrettable footnote” to a marriage ending? It astounds me … Continue reading “Adultery is the main event, NOT a “regrettable footnote” to the marriage’s demise.”

Old Testament Polygamy Loophole?

“I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more.”  -2 Samuel 12:8, NIV What do we make of God saying that He would have given King David more … Continue reading “Old Testament Polygamy Loophole?”

A fire forged friendship with God

When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you. -Isaiah 43:2, NLT What makes me so devoted to following Jesus? Like numerous … Continue reading “A fire forged friendship with God”