He will not crush the weakest reed or put out a flickering candle. He will bring justice to all who have been wronged. -Isaiah 42:3, NLT Shattered Self Esteem One of the many stupid things about the dynamics regarding cheating is how all the sympathy often is sucked up by the Cheater. They are treated … Continue reading “Shattered Self Esteem”
Category: Cheating
Painful discard
He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem. -Isaiah 53:3, NIV The divorce discard is painful. Some Cheaters cling to their marriage, and other Cheaters complete the rejection by filing for divorce. … Continue reading “Painful discard”
Grief gets us stuck sometimes
His family all tried to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. “I will go to my grave mourning for my son,” he would say, and then he would weep. -Genesis 37:35, NLT Grief gets us stuck sometimes. It is a lot of loss all at once to discover your spouse’s double-life. You have … Continue reading “Grief gets us stuck sometimes”
Transparency and Honesty?
Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. -John 3:22, NIV Only seeking transparency and honesty? No. Rather, Cheaters are seeking information and power. It is funny how Cheaters talk a big game about wanting transparency and honesty. The irony … Continue reading “Transparency and Honesty?”
Playing the Martyr
Some Cheaters are very adept at playing the martyr. They are the aggrieved party, not you. Yes, they cheated, but they only did so because you are such an awful spouse. They are happy to tell you what they’ve allegedly been putting up with that “drove them” to cheat. They are a marriage martyr. Often times, … Continue reading “Playing the Martyr”
Stick to your “guns”
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Stick to your “guns!” Do not waste your time with a pastor or counselor who wants to go over your marriage “troubles” while avoiding the infidelity of your spouse. This … Continue reading “Stick to your “guns””
Reasonable, but not!
See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ. -Colossians 2:8, NIV I thought it was so reasonable… …but it wasn’t. It was worldly wisdom. My (now) ex-wife presented her “emotional affair” to me as … Continue reading “Reasonable, but not!”
Will not repent even in the face of counter evidence
For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. -2 Timothy 4:3, NIV Before discovery or even after discovery of an affair, you might experience … Continue reading “Will not repent even in the face of counter evidence”
Just a photo
It was just a photo. I saw a picture of an old “friend” who chose my Cheater and turned against me in the end. One photo brought back all sorts of feelings. Mostly, it brought back grief. My last contact with this couple was a text from the husband on the day that my divorce … Continue reading “Just a photo”
Indifference to injustice is ungodly!
For the Lord is righteous, he loves justice…. -Psalm 11:7a, NIV Caring for faithful spouses is a justice issue, in my opinion. I know many issues in this world are related to the imbalance of justice. Adultery and adultery victims are not the only ones suffering from a world run through with injustice. Yet they are suffering injustices. If … Continue reading “Indifference to injustice is ungodly!”