And Samuel died; and all the Israelites were gathered together, and lamented him, and buried him in his house at Ramah. -I Samuel 25:1a, KJV When my maternal grandfather died, they shut down his small North Dakotan town to bury him. That’s the sort of impact I hope to have on those around me. I … Continue reading “Keep legacy in mind”
Category: Cheating
Cheating to “benefit” the marriage!
“I cheated as a cry for help,” says Cheater. “This will just make us better in the end, and you’ll thank me in the end,” says Cheater. A cheater claiming that the cheating will make the marriage better is a very delusion character, indeed! The sad thing is some pastors and therapists will agree with … Continue reading “Cheating to “benefit” the marriage!”
Warning to liars
Who may stand in his holy place? Only those whose hands and hearts are pure, who do not worship idols and never tell lies. -Psalm 24:3b-4, NLT What struck me this morning as I read this verse out of the New Living Translation was how seriously God takes lying. Lying is named right next to … Continue reading “Warning to liars”
Twisted Accusations
Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! -Isaiah 5:20, KJV Some cheaters will accuse faithful spouses of all sorts of things. They will take things that were done for their benefit and tell a … Continue reading “Twisted Accusations”
Triggered: “Open and honest”
“We need to have open and honest communication,” says Cheater. When I hear the phrase “open and honest,” I am slightly triggered. It sends me back to the conflict with my ex-wife as our marriage ended. The words aren’t bad in and of themselves. Such a goal for communication is admirable. We want to be … Continue reading “Triggered: “Open and honest””
It burns, burns!
Here is another thing you do. You cover the Lord’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. -Malachi 2:13, NLT It burns, burns! Such is the response of some cheaters when they are confronted with Scripture calling out their sin. They behave … Continue reading “It burns, burns!”
Cheater-Speak: “We got married too young.”
“We just got married too young. That’s why it didn’t work out.” -Cheater I just do not buy the “married too young” explanation for divorce. It is an excuse. This is a tidy lie to cover up for the cheater’s character deficits and to help people avoid feeling uncomfortable in facing the hard truth: The … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “We got married too young.””
Run towards or away?
His wife said, “Still holding on to your precious integrity, are you? Curse God and be done with it!” -Job 2:9, MSG When the calamity of infidelity discovery strikes, we have two option: 1) Allow the sins of “man” drive us away from God with a curse. Or 2) Run to God as our only … Continue reading “Run towards or away?”
Cheating is abuse. It is not morally neutral behavior.
Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! – I Corinthians 6:15b, NLT When someone is a cheater, they are also an abuser. You cannot have one without the other. Soul rape is abusive. I am astounded by how cheating and adultery are too often treated … Continue reading “Cheating is abuse. It is not morally neutral behavior.”
Inquiring Mind: Did you love her?
“Did you ever love her?” OR “Did you ever love him?” This is such a simply stated question. However, it is far from simple when applied to a cheater. Looking back on the marriage and how it ended, it is complicated. How can you say you ever loved someone who revealed they were utterly different … Continue reading “Inquiring Mind: Did you love her?”