Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. -Proverbs 29:25, NIV People will likely talk. Sure. Even–maybe especially–“Christian” people with issues with you getting a divorce from your cheater. However… Do not allow the “fear of man” to paralyze you. That fear is what will get you snared in … Continue reading “Remember: God’s got you!”
Category: Cheating
When a cheater claims the marriage was “toxic”
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Did I miss something? When I read this verse–part of the Ten Commandments–I don’t see where it says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery unless [you believe] your marriage is a toxic relationship.” I don’t see it because it is NOT there! This is an especially lame cheater excuse or … Continue reading “When a cheater claims the marriage was “toxic””
Worthless Words
Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NLT Please, faithful spouse, do not rely upon the words of your cheater for your identity (or healing)! A cheater is a liar as one cannot cheat without lying. This calls all their words into question. Knowing this about them … Continue reading “Worthless Words”
Godly and reasonable to expect the cheating to stop!
Let her remove the adulterous look from her face and the unfaithfulness from between her breasts. -Hosea 2:2b, NIV Restored, godly marriages resurrected after the destruction of adultery are rare. Cheaters would have to change character for this to happen. Such change is painful and hard. That is not the path most cheaters take. Shortcuts are … Continue reading “Godly and reasonable to expect the cheating to stop!”
Adultery is always sin!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV So much energy is often spent trying to “understand” why a cheater cheated. Such energy–especially in churches–is better spent teaching what the Bible teaches–namely, adultery is ALWAYS unacceptable. Circumstances matter not. Adultery is ALWAYS sin. I wonder how many marriages would have been saved this trauma (and … Continue reading “Adultery is always sin!”
“Fireproof” teaches toleration and enabling of marital infidelity!
For a time is coming when people will no longer listen to sound and wholesome teaching. They will follow their own desires and will look for teachers who will tell them whatever their itching ears want to hear. – 2 Timothy 4:3, NLT Around 2010, a major marital craze went through the American, evangelical church … Continue reading ““Fireproof” teaches toleration and enabling of marital infidelity!”
No longer ruled by fear
And my faith in him convinces me that he is more than able to keep all that I’ve placed in his hands safe and secure until the fullness of his appearing. -2 Timothy 1:12b, TPT When I was reading this chapter, this second half of verse twelve grabbed my attention. I doubt I am the … Continue reading “No longer ruled by fear”
Let’s retire the phrase: “failed marriage”
Let’s retire the awful phrase: “Failed Marriage.” I find this phrase obnoxious for several reasons. In general, my objection to its use is how it communicates things that ought to have no place among God’s people. Let me explain… First, what do we mean by “failed marriage?” This implies there are successful and unsuccessful marriages. … Continue reading “Let’s retire the phrase: “failed marriage””
Stopping is NOT enough!
When a cheater stops the affair, this is not enough. They need to take further action. It is like an alcoholic who stops drinking. This is good. However, the alcoholic who is not actively dealing with their issues connected to drinking is not in recovery. A cheater who does not deal with the lies he … Continue reading “Stopping is NOT enough!”
Cheaters do not love God per Jesus’ words.
Jesus answered and said unto him, “If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.” -John 14:23, KJV Cheaters may profess love of God… …but their actions say otherwise. You see, the Christian faith place demands … Continue reading “Cheaters do not love God per Jesus’ words.”