“Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing.” -Matthew 23:37, NIV Spurned love. I find it hard to believe a faithful spouse never loved their cheater. … Continue reading “Our spurned love”
Category: Cheating
Practiced Life of Lies
Lying lips are abomination to the Lord: but they that deal truly are his delight. -Proverbs 12:22, KJV One of the main reasons I am really skeptical of marriages “surviving” infidelity is the challenge of changing a sin pattern in the cheater. This is the pattern of speaking and believing lies. I add the second part, … Continue reading “Practiced Life of Lies”
Letting go of bad relationships
If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, KJV Sometimes we cling to other unhealthy relationships besides the relationship with our cheater. … Continue reading “Letting go of bad relationships”
The false “victim mentality” of cheaters
You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. -Matthew 7:5, NIV A blinding pride. This is what cheaters have. They are so caught up in entitlement that they do not see or care what damage they are doing … Continue reading “The false “victim mentality” of cheaters”
No more marriage investments, only withdrawals
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. -Proverbs 5:18, NIV When one partner refuses to do the things that both enjoy, you know this person is already gone. Instead, this person seems fixated on berating the faithful partner about his or her “shortcomings.” This is NOT a … Continue reading “No more marriage investments, only withdrawals”
What if we made a list, too?!
And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.” -I Peter 4:8, NKJV Cheaters are “good” at putting together a list of things that they do not like about their spouse. They are doing this to “justify” their infidelity and their abandonment of the marriage. The … Continue reading “What if we made a list, too?!”
What a difference!
A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. -Proverbs 31:10, MSG Eleven years ago, I was in a much different place around this time. It was the season my first marriage imploded. All sorts of horrors came forth during that season. Yet God sustained me. He was there with me … Continue reading “What a difference!”
Lies and shame
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. -Ephesians 5:8a, NIV I believe a lie is always present when it comes to shame. Either we are being lied to, or we are living a lie. God did not design us to live in the darkness doing the deeds of the darkness. … Continue reading “Lies and shame”
“It just happened,” says Cheater
“It just happened.” -Cheater This sort of explanation of an affair is a way to avoid responsibility. It is a way to ascribe the affair to causes like blizzards and tsunamis. It just happened. Natural disasters “just happen.” Sin takes an agent. If this was not so, then God would not bother telling us NOT … Continue reading ““It just happened,” says Cheater”
Exposing accepted adultery and divorce “wisdom”
Don’t let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ. -Colossians 2:8, NLT So much advice or counsel in the church on adultery and divorce is “high-sounding nonsense” in my opinion. Most do not approach the topic … Continue reading “Exposing accepted adultery and divorce “wisdom””