“Why don’t you both take a break from each other?” -Clueless Counselor This is one of the dumbness pieces of advice given to a couple dealing with infidelity. The problems of an infidelity ravaged marriage are not solved by creating more distance and less accountability for the cheater. Both are the last things needed, actually. A break is … Continue reading “Dumb and Dangerous Advice”
Category: Demons and Spiritual Warfare
If blaming…cheaters ain’t there to reconcile!
And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” -Genesis 3:11-12, NIV Just because a cheater goes to couple’s therapy … Continue reading “If blaming…cheaters ain’t there to reconcile!”
Cheaters will generally return to their “vomit.”
As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly. -Proverbs 26:11, NIV Committing adultery is foolish, foolish behavior. The Bible names it as such in Proverbs 5. And the general observation from chapter twenty-six is that fools repeat such folly. Maybe this does not happen always, but it does usually as this … Continue reading “Cheaters will generally return to their “vomit.””
Ungodly Counsel as Catnip to Cheaters
“Can’t you see?! You’ve divorced her in your heart.” -“Christian” Lay Counselor Such a statement is highly irresponsible. It is like waving catnip in front of a cheater. They are likely to take this statement and go forth to act as if they are truly not married (even though they are). A “Christian” leader trying to … Continue reading “Ungodly Counsel as Catnip to Cheaters”
Cheaters Are NOT Martyrs But Rather Aggressors!
And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” –I Corinthians 6:16, NLT Cheaters seem to enjoy playing the “martyr card.” They claim their spouse did not give them enough sex or emotional attention. “We … Continue reading “Cheaters Are NOT Martyrs But Rather Aggressors!”
“The Devil Made Me Do It” Excuse
….but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. -James 1:14-15, NIV (emphasis mine) James gives us clear teaching on the origins of sin. And adultery is … Continue reading ““The Devil Made Me Do It” Excuse”
Common (False) Narratives Need Correcting!
Church ought to be a place where adultery victims can come to find support and comfort. Sadly, it often is quite the opposite. It is hard to admit to another Christian that you have been cheated on, discarded, and divorced by your spouse. This difficulty arises because two deeply entrenched narratives too frequently follow that … Continue reading “Common (False) Narratives Need Correcting!”
I got an email entitled “Divorce.”
They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that! -2 Timothy 3:5, NLT Early when I was still desperately trying to reconcile with my (now) ex-wife, my (now ex) father-in-law sent an email to both of us entitled “Divorce.” It was the classical … Continue reading “I got an email entitled “Divorce.””
Josh Duggar Saga: Blaming External Forces Isn’t Repentance
I hearkened and heard, but they spake not aright: no man repented him of his wickedness, saying, What have I done? every one turned to his course, as the horse rusheth into the battle. -Jeremiah 8:6, KJV News is flying that Joshua Duggar may be coming back to TLC. It is reported from a source … Continue reading “Josh Duggar Saga: Blaming External Forces Isn’t Repentance”
Cheater-speak: “But I never intended to hurt you!”
“Sure, I cheated. But I never intended to hurt you.” -Cheater “Good” intentions do not magically make STDs go away. “Good” intentions do not magically make stolen money spent on OW/OM reappear. “Good” intentions do not magically make adultery okay. I chalk the “But I never intended to hurt you” sort of statement up to … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “But I never intended to hurt you!””