She [an adulteress] does not ponder the path of life; Her ways are unstable, she does not know it. -Proverbs 5:6, NASB A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what … Continue reading “Cheaters are in love with “the deal” until they are not.”
Category: Emotional Affair
John Piper and Divorce
And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce… -Jeremiah 3:8a, KJV Shout out to “Janey The Small” on Twitter who found this audio file (posted in 2013) of Pastor John Piper on what he would advice Christians … Continue reading “John Piper and Divorce”
The Public Relations “War”
In a lawsuit the first to speak seems right, until someone comes forward and cross-examines. -Proverbs 18:17, NIV Stories are powerful. They give hope in hopeless places. And they can crush the spirit as well. Stories are well known as effective manipulation tools. Despots the world around recognized this and engage in promoting propaganda for … Continue reading “The Public Relations “War””
Arrogance and Contempt – Twins of Doom
21 On the appointed day Herod, wearing his royal robes, sat on his throne and delivered a public address to the people. 22 They shouted, “This is the voice of a god, not of a man.” 23 Immediately, because Herod did not give praise to God, an angel of the Lord struck him down, and he was eaten by worms and … Continue reading “Arrogance and Contempt – Twins of Doom”
Why? Ask the cheater.
“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?” -Jeremiah 17:9, NLT Feeling obligated to have an explanation for an abandonment or divorce plays a significant role in the suffering in my experience. It is crazy-making. You do not have access to the thoughts … Continue reading “Why? Ask the cheater.”
Cheaters and the Absence of God’s Discipline
If God doesn’t discipline you as he does all of his children, it means that you are illegitimate and are not really his children at all. -Hebrews 12:8, NLT Cheaters and the Absence of God’s Discipline Faithful spouses–present company included–struggle when we watch our cheaters seem to not miss a beat in their lives experiencing … Continue reading “Cheaters and the Absence of God’s Discipline”
Divorce Minister Blog Vision
…fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. – Hebrews 12:2, NIV Why create the blog “Divorce Minister?” Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is a ministry born … Continue reading “Divorce Minister Blog Vision”
Polygamy in the Bible and Cheaters
He [King Solomon] had 700 wives of royal birth and 300 concubines. And in fact, they did turn his heart away from the LORD. -I Kings 11:3, NLT An overseer, then, must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, temperate, prudent, respectable, hospitable, able to teach…. -I Timothy 3:2, NASB [emphasis mine] What about all that polygamy in … Continue reading “Polygamy in the Bible and Cheaters”
Cheater-speak: “Against you alone, God, have I sinned!”
Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight; so you are right in your verdict and justified when you judge. -Psalm 51:4, NIV This verse comes after Nathan, the prophet, confronts King David over his adultery with–really sexual exploitation of–Bathsheba. Part of that confrontation included some rather harsh … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “Against you alone, God, have I sinned!””
Abused and Manipulated.
Rescue me, Lord, from evildoers; protect me from the violent, who devise evil plans in their hearts and stir up war every day. They make their tongues as sharp as a serpent’s; the poison of vipers is on their lips. -Psalm 140:1-3, NIV Cheaters know what they are doing. -They lie to avoid giving the faithful spouse the power that … Continue reading “Abused and Manipulated.”