Forgiveness is not the same thing as forgetting. In fact, I would suggest “forgetting” is just “denial” by another name. What helped me in both forgiving and moving on from my ex-wife was writing out what she actually did. Having this list in mind is very useful. Such a list is helpful in dealing with … Continue reading “Are you really pining over that?!”
Category: Encouragement
She Did NOT Fixate On Money!
“No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other; you will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” -Luke 16:13, NLT When I first married, the wedding celebration was rife with conversation from my (now ex) in-law family as I remember … Continue reading “She Did NOT Fixate On Money!”
Isaiah 54 Promises
“Fear not; you will no longer live in shame. Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you.” -Isaiah 54:4a, NLT Can we claim the promises in this chapter even though they are about Israel? Yes. However, like Israel, we may not see their fulfillment in this life. It may be an end times … Continue reading “Isaiah 54 Promises”
Gift of Suffering
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him… -Philippians 1:29, NIV While the context of this verse is more precisely about persecution for professing Christ as Lord, I claim this for myself and any unjust suffering in general. Suffering seems to … Continue reading “Gift of Suffering”
Marry Someone Who Is NOT Ambivalent
When choosing a spouse, I recommend NOT marrying someone who demonstrates ambivalence about the union. This is a lesson I learned from my first marriage ending. When you are with someone who is less than eager to “tie the knot,” it may spell problems down the road. Besides, you are worth being with someone who … Continue reading “Marry Someone Who Is NOT Ambivalent”
Labor Day Distraction
When my life was recently obliterated by the discovery of the other man plus my (now ex) wife serving me divorce papers, I took a trip to visit my best friends in New York City. It was Labor Day weekend. Now, I am not a huge NYC fan–no offense to those who love this city … Continue reading “Labor Day Distraction”
God Will Not Refuse to Receive You!
“Failures are events, NOT persons.” -Anonymous psychologist (emphasis mine) “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.” -Psalm 27:10, NLT These two quotes ministered greatly to my ravaged soul during the aftermath of discovering adultery and getting divorced. The power of the statements are tied to the lies they address. … Continue reading “God Will Not Refuse to Receive You!”
Trust God, Fear NOT “Man”
Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. -Proverbs 29:25, NIV If God is for us,who can be against us? -Romans 8:31b, NIV Trust God, Fear NOT “Man!” My anxiety often escalates when I start concerning myself with the opinions of “man” over what I know is God’s verdict … Continue reading “Trust God, Fear NOT “Man””
Relax, Be Still, And Remember He Is God!
“’Be still, and know that I am God….’” – Psalm 46:10b, NIV When I was in the shock stage, I often found myself drawing a warm bath with lavender bath salts to ease my stress. I would play worship music to encourage my soul as I soaked in the tub before or after I … Continue reading “Relax, Be Still, And Remember He Is God!”
Careful in Sharing
Not everyone deserves to hear your story. It is a privilege to be allowed entry into such an intimate and tender place. One of the hardest lessons I am still learning is to hold what I know closer to my chest. In other words, I tend to the “over share” spectrum of sharing. I am … Continue reading “Careful in Sharing”