From his temple he heard my voice; my cry came before him, into his ears. The earth trembled and quaked, and the foundations of the mountains shook; they trembled because he was angry. -Psalm 18:6b-7, NIV Can I trust God with my hurt? I think the answer to this question answering the question of whether or not … Continue reading “Forgiveness as faith test”
Category: Grief
Returned to old stomping grounds
I just returned from a wonderful trip out to the East Coast. Mrs. DM and I had a great time reconnecting with a bunch of my old friends. In one of those encounters, I was reminded how things might have been different. But it was short lived. The reality is I am truly blessed to … Continue reading “Returned to old stomping grounds”
Travelling soon… blog may be on pause for a couple of days…
I will be flying out of state tomorrow (April 21) to celebrate an old roommate’s wedding on the East Coast. It is a trip I am both looking forward to but also am feeling ambivalence. This will be the first time out that I will have Mrs. DM with me as we visit the home … Continue reading “Travelling soon… blog may be on pause for a couple of days…”
A Holy Saturday sort of feel!
At the place where Jesus was crucified, there was a garden, and in the garden a new tomb, in which no one had ever been laid. Because it was the Jewish day of Preparation and since the tomb was nearby, they laid Jesus there. -John 19:41-42, NIV When dealing with a cheater and the devastation wrought by their … Continue reading “A Holy Saturday sort of feel!”
Circling back
Next week, I am planning on returning to a location I last visited prior to my divorce. It is a full circle sort of experience. God has provided an opportunity for me to show Mrs. DM my old stomping grounds on the East Coast. I have ambivalent feelings about it. However, I suspect it will … Continue reading “Circling back”
New and BETTER life a decade later!
Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace you will rejoice in your inheritance. And so you will inherit a double portion in your land, and everlasting joy will be yours. -Isaiah 61:7, NIV A decade ago. My cheater walked out of my life a decade ago abandoning me and our marriage. … Continue reading “New and BETTER life a decade later!”
Two greatest pastoral errors towards faithful spouses
After the Lord had said these things to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite, “I am angry with you and your two friends, because you have not spoken the truth about me, as my servant Job has….” -Job 42:7, NIV Over and over, I see two common pastoral errors in “helping” faithful spouses. They … Continue reading “Two greatest pastoral errors towards faithful spouses”
Could have gone another way!
A danger for faithful spouses is focusing on the fantasy and not the reality of their situation. A spouse who cheats is the opposite of what the faithful spouse signed up for on their wedding day. Obviously, the marriage could have gone a very different way. I think it is wise to acknowledge this. Something precious was … Continue reading “Could have gone another way!”
Seen, not just watched!
You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book. -Psalm 56:8, NLT A few weeks ago, I had the privilege of jumping on a live online event with Fr. Gregory Boyle. He is a priest whose life work is directed … Continue reading “Seen, not just watched!”
“You just weren’t right for each other,” says the Monday-Morning Quarterback.
“You just weren’t right for each other.” -Christian (giving a pass to the cheater) I find this sort of Monday morning quarterbacking annoying. It is obvious that a cheater and faithful spouse have different values based on their actions. That alone says that they are not compatible. If we knew our spouse was going to … Continue reading ““You just weren’t right for each other,” says the Monday-Morning Quarterback.”