Yesterday was the anniversary to my divorce becoming final. I almost forgot. It was just another day. That said, I will never forget where I was the moment I received the official word that my first marriage was over. I was sitting in a van at work. Thankfully, I was not alone that day. The … Continue reading “Almost forgot anti-anniversary yesterday!”
Category: Grief
Not “an easy way out”
Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? -Matthew 7:4, NKJV A faithful spouse choosing to divorce a cheater is not taking the “easy way out!” It is disgusting that a follower of Christ would ever suggest such a thing. They … Continue reading “Not “an easy way out””
Grateful for what I did not want
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever. -Psalm 136:1, NIV Naively, I thought I’d be a “miracle story” until the end of my first marriage. That is probably why it hit so hard when the divorce was finalized. I never wanted the divorce. If left to my own devices, I probably … Continue reading “Grateful for what I did not want”
Another loss – say the thing!
Deep in my psyche must be a distaste for the consumer-driven app world of dating–that’s what my dream life brought up this past night. I am a happily married man who does not want all the drama of sorting through girlfriend drama. It might be my introvert nature. However, the thought of entering that world … Continue reading “Another loss – say the thing!”
Another Thanksgiving!
In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. -I Thessalonians 5:18, KJV Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate! I recognize that this can be a difficult time for many reasons. It can bring up feelings of loss or old difficult memories. One Thanksgiving Eve many years … Continue reading “Another Thanksgiving!”
Having regrets not the same…
But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us. -2 Corinthians 4:7, KJV Having regrets is not the same… …as deserving or causing the abuse of being cheated on! You do not have to be a perfect husband or perfect wife to … Continue reading “Having regrets not the same…”
Their Double Lives
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. -Proverbs 27:6, NIV Their Double Lives One of the major reasons why divorce is the best of bad options left to faithful spouses is the magnitude of the sins committed by Cheaters. Double lives denote a lifestyle of lying and deception that has … Continue reading “Their Double Lives”
Book Review: FORGIVENESS AFTER TRAUMA by Susannah Griffith
“In the Bible, lament takes up more space than teaching on forgiveness…. Don’t talk to me about forgiveness unless you’ve made space for me to lament the full story–the messy parts, the painful parts, the parts I wish I could forget, even the parts I’m grateful for. Don’t talk to me ab out forgiveness until … Continue reading “Book Review: FORGIVENESS AFTER TRAUMA by Susannah Griffith”
Probably less than half of it
“Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’” -Matthew 7:23, NIV One of the hardest things about moving on is accepting that you will probably know less than half of what actually happened. This gap of information–whatever the percentage–can keep faithful spouses stuck. Please do not let it … Continue reading “Probably less than half of it”
Coming to acceptance of some hard stuff
Discovering your spouse was unfaithful is an earth-shaking experience! When this happened, the faithful spouse who can come to terms with reality will be able to navigate this awful experience with some safety and sanity. They will save themselves some unnecessary suffering, in other words. Here are some important things to come to terms with: … Continue reading “Coming to acceptance of some hard stuff”