“Keep it as quiet as possible. Just think about the damage done to other relationships if you tell them she cheated on you [aka the truth].” -Standard (Awful) Advice Such concern for the damage of relationships is too in coming late. Actions reveal character. Character often shapes reputation. If a cheater wanted a good reputation, … Continue reading “But what about the damage to their reputation?!”
Category: Reconciliation
Disagreeing with “Duck Dynasty” Al and Lisa Robertson on Divorce
A reader sent me an article promoting a book by Al and Lisa Robertson of “Duck Dynasty” fame. In the article “Al and Lisa Robertson: Rebuilding After an Affair,” the story of Lisa’s repeated infidelity is shared along with their advice to couples to remain married even after adultery. The article bothered the reader sending … Continue reading “Disagreeing with “Duck Dynasty” Al and Lisa Robertson on Divorce”
Re: Comment on “I hate the movie ‘Fireproof'”
In a comment on my post, “I hate the movie ‘Fireproof,’” Katygirl wrote: I’m thankful that God uses all things for those who love him and are called according to His purpose. I am also thankful that the teaching fundamental of this movie and book are that love covers a multitude of sins. I don’t … Continue reading “Re: Comment on “I hate the movie ‘Fireproof’””
John Piper’s Son, Barnabas, Divorces
Eleven and a half years- that’s how long it lasted. Eleven and half years of marriage and then gone….When she told me she was finished it was like a knock at the door from the police chaplain – utter shock, not real, numbness, anger, fear. -Barnabas Piper, “When A Marriage Dies,” Published January 10, … Continue reading “John Piper’s Son, Barnabas, Divorces”
Divorce a “mentally ill” cheater?!
“…in sickness and in health….” -Traditional Marriage Vows “If a man is discovered committing adultery, both he and the woman must die. In this way, you will purge Israel of such evil.” -Deuteronomy 22:22, NLT ****DISCLAIMER: I am NOT a mental health provider. This post is NOT medical advice or diagnosis.*** What to do if … Continue reading “Divorce a “mentally ill” cheater?!”
Never speak of “it” again? But God did!
“Have you seen what faithless Israel has done? She has gone up on every high hill and under every spreading tree and has committed adultery there.” -Jeremiah 3:6b, NIV Yes, you are an adulterous wife who takes in strangers instead of her own husband. -Ezekiel 16:32, NLT They are unfaithful to the … Continue reading “Never speak of “it” again? But God did!”
Seared Consciences
But the [Holy] Spirit explicitly and unmistakably declares that in later times some will turn away from the faith…[misled] by the hypocrisy of liars whose consciences are seared as with a branding iron [leaving them incapable of ethical functioning]…. -I Timothy 4:1a,2, AMP When a cheater is telling their spouse, pastor, and/or Christian counselor that … Continue reading “Seared Consciences”
Book Review (Part II): Gary Chapman’s ONE MORE TRY
A continuation from Part I (click here)… Book Review: Part II – One More Try: What to do when your marriage is falling apart By Gary Chapman Gary Chapman continues down a dangerous road of cheater toleration following missing the mark in his theology of divorce (see Part I). With divorce off the table as … Continue reading “Book Review (Part II): Gary Chapman’s ONE MORE TRY”
Book Review (Part I): Gary Chapman’s ONE MORE TRY
Book Review (Part I): One More Try: What to do when your marriage is falling apart by Gary Chapman My blood started to boil as I read this book from a major evangelical leader trying to “help” spouses dealing with infidelity in their marriages. It was like reading a playbook as to what exactly NOT to do … Continue reading “Book Review (Part I): Gary Chapman’s ONE MORE TRY”
A time for divorce, too.
For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. – Ecclesiastes 3:1, NLT Do we really believe this Bible verse? If we do, I suggest “everything” includes a time for divorce. Sometimes the season suggests to the wise that divorce is the proper course of action. In particular, I believe this … Continue reading “A time for divorce, too.”