She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. -Jeremiah 3:8a, NLT For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church…. -Ephesians 5:23a, KJV When pastors and elders choose to blame marriages ending on men failing as “spiritual heads,” I would like them to … Continue reading “Did God “fail” as the leader and head of Israel?”
Category: Theology of divorce
Dear DM, This sucks.
Dear Divorce Minister, Five years later, and I’m still numb or in an fog or angry/depressed. I was pregnant with our third child when my husband met a woman on an online game. The gist of it is that she started out “fun and flirty” and then they proceeded to talk about more deep stuff. … Continue reading “Dear DM, This sucks.”
Is this a physical affair in the biblical sense?
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” -Matthew 5:27-28, NIV “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew … Continue reading “Is this a physical affair in the biblical sense?”
“Mailbag” Comment on Joshua Harris Situation
Dear Divorce Minister, I agree, that those in leadership have less privacy than average folks, and that he would have to give a better explanation in order to continue as an active leader in a church. However, (from what I’ve what I’ve gathered in the past hour or so), he left pastoring quite a while … Continue reading ““Mailbag” Comment on Joshua Harris Situation”
Most Reasonable of Expectations
“…let her therefore put away her whoredoms out of her sight, and her adulteries from between her breasts….” -Hosea 2:2b, KJV A Faithful Spouse’s Reasonable Expectation: The cheater ends the affair(s)–both physical and emotional varieties–and engages in actions demonstrating self-work on the character flaws that led the cheater to betray their partner. This expectation needs … Continue reading “Most Reasonable of Expectations”
Assigning blame for the divorce, why bother?
“For I, the LORD, love justice. I hate robbery and wrongdoing. I will faithfully reward my people for their suffering and make an everlasting covenant with them.” -Isaiah 61:8, NLT When I was going through my ecclesiastical trial to keep my ministerial credentials, someone I trusted asked me why my former denomination was so fixated … Continue reading “Assigning blame for the divorce, why bother?”
Does the Old Testament say to stone the faithful spouse as well?!
“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT I am not for bringing back the death penalty for adultery. Ok?! The point of quoting this verse is to expose the absurdity of blaming faithful spouses for … Continue reading “Does the Old Testament say to stone the faithful spouse as well?!”
Quick Update Re: Joshua Harris of “I KISSED DATING GOODBYE” book fame
Joshua Harris announced his “separation” from his wife recently. I did a post on that here. He has recently followed that announcement with two big pieces of news in another Instagram post: 1. The “separation” announcement was a divorce announcement according to Harris himself. He writes, “My heart is full of gratitude. I wish you … Continue reading “Quick Update Re: Joshua Harris of “I KISSED DATING GOODBYE” book fame”
Mailbag: Is there forgiveness without divorcing again?
Dear Divorce Minister, So I remarried and my circumstances aren’t clear. If I think I’ve sinned in doing so, is there forgiveness without divorcing again? I’m curious your toughts [sic]. -Sean Dear Sean, Since I do not know the circumstances surrounding the question, I am going to have to make some assumptions and give you … Continue reading “Mailbag: Is there forgiveness without divorcing again?”
Never-Divorce Stance Steals Faithful Spouse Agency
She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. -Jeremiah 3:8a, NLT The never-divorce stance of some Christians and pastors puts faithful spouses in a very passive position. They just have to take the abuse. Something is fundamentally wrong with one’s theology when accepting (and enabling, even) sin is what is taught. One … Continue reading “Never-Divorce Stance Steals Faithful Spouse Agency”