Probably the hardest part of healing from a divorce from a cheater are the lingering emotional wounds from that marriage.
You have to find a way to ground yourself in reality. The truth is what will set you free from the cheater’s lies about you and your marriage. In other words, this reality is a reality NOT defined by the cheater or her people.
Disbelieving the cheater’s reality is hard to do when you have spent so much energy trying to “win back” the cheater. Freeing yourself from such lies means disentangling yourself and your marriage narrative from the distortions you’ve lived with so long.
The important thing to do to heal is to focus on the truth.
Do not allow others to steal this from you. You can choose what you believe or do not.
It is true that she cheated and lied for months.
It is true that God considers that enough over which to end a marriage (see Mt 19:9).
It is true that I did not have to be perfect as a spouse to expect fidelity from her.
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*A version of this post ran previously.
