“I was recently contacted by someone who informed me that VERY BAD things have gone on over at Citizens Church Plano (formerly The Village Church-Plano Campus) which involved the campus pastor, Hunter Hall, and the worship pastor, Isaac Wimberley. It all goes back to 2016, when Hunter committed adultery with a woman in the church…but the … Continue reading “Sexually compromised leaders at a church formerly The Village Church – Plano Campus”
Author: Divorce Minister
So grateful!
Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care. -Matthew 10:29, NIV My heart is full of gratitude! Mrs. DM grew up with parrots as a child. To be more specific, she owned cockatiels. One of things I have learned after marrying … Continue reading “So grateful!”
Treat faithful spouses as adults, not children.
When I was a child, I as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. -I Corinthians 13:11, KJV Something about the infidelity and divorce surviving experience seems to encourage other Christians to see themselves as our parents. … Continue reading “Treat faithful spouses as adults, not children.”
Outrage of Cheaters
Cheaters often use anger as a way to avoid responsibility. You might have caught them red handed. Instead of repenting then and there, they turn on you with anger: -Maybe they blame you for “snooping” or otherwise invading their sacred privacy? -Maybe they use the occasion to say you forced them into this (sin)? -Maybe … Continue reading “Outrage of Cheaters”
Sickening Smugness Among “Christians”
Smug, married Christians act intolerably towards faithful spouses hemorrhaging from soul rape. These are “know it all” Christians who think all that proceeds from their mouths is gold. They are the “wise” ones in their eyes. The reality is what proceeds from their mouths would be better used to fertilize the fields. These smug people … Continue reading “Sickening Smugness Among “Christians””
Still evil
But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive. -Genesis 50:20, KJV Just because God redeems a horrible situation does NOT mean the original sin is less than evil. God can take the discovery of adultery … Continue reading “Still evil”
Is there an “innocent party” in a divorce?
Is there such thing as an “innocent party” in a divorce? Yes. I struggled with this question when fighting to retain my minister’s license years ago. Psycho-babble is winning when we cannot identify or distinguish between the innocent party and the perpetrator. Now, I understand those who say we all contribute to our marriage relationship. … Continue reading “Is there an “innocent party” in a divorce?”
Not entitled to your agreement!
While an abusive cheater may act otherwise, he or she is NOT entitled to your agreement. They might want you to agree to a blasé narrative about why you are divorcing absent all mention of their marriage-ending sin. They might want you to agree to never bring up the cheater partner. They might want you … Continue reading “Not entitled to your agreement!”
Marriage counseling is not magic. Therapy is not enough.
If attending pre-marital counseling, marriage therapy, and individual therapy could make a good marriage, then my first marriage ought to have been amazing. It wasn’t. Instead, my current marriage with Mrs. DM–where we have attended nearly zero therapy sessions together–is thriving. What’s my point? Attending therapy does not make a good marriage. Other elements are … Continue reading “Marriage counseling is not magic. Therapy is not enough.”
Hymn Encouragement: When through fiery trials…
“When through fiery trials thy pathway shall lie, My grace, all-sufficient, shall be thy supply. The flame shall not hurt thee; I only design thy dross to consume, and thy gold to refine.” -“How Firm a Foundation” (Public Domain) Discovering a spouse’s infidelity certainly qualifies as a “fiery trial!” I love the following line about … Continue reading “Hymn Encouragement: When through fiery trials…”