14 “But suppose this son has a son who sees all the sins his father commits, and though he sees them, he does not do such things: 15 “He does not eat at the mountain shrines or look to the idols of Israel. He does not defile his neighbor’s wife. … He will not die for his father’s … Continue reading “So unseen!”
Author: Divorce Minister
Lessons from a dead pet
Today, we said good-bye to one of our dear parrot buddies, Trip. He died from complications following a surgery. It sucks. It mystifies me how Cheaters can discard spouses so easily. I only had this little bird for a few years and am profoundly sad at his death. The lack of attachment to another human … Continue reading “Lessons from a dead pet”
Hobby Day – Bench Competition
I recently competed in a weight lifting meet as a bench only competitor. The day was a mixed bag. I succeeded on my opening attempt where I easily benched pressed 250kgs/551lbs. This was good enough to earn me a medal at the meet. Sadly, I missed at the weight I really wanted to hit in … Continue reading “Hobby Day – Bench Competition”
Another Encouraging Song
Been jamming to this fairly new song from Elevation Worship. Enjoy:
Yes, it is what it looks like…
Yes, it is what it looks like… and it is probably much worse. This is the reality of catching your Cheater. You might try to discount what your eyes are seeing. People around you might even discourage you from facing the ugly reality. Yes, they did cheat. Hidden texts and phone calls in the middle … Continue reading “Yes, it is what it looks like…”
Once gaslit…
When you’ve been gaslighted once, you can develop a sense for when someone tries to do it, again. Sadly, Cheaters and their supporters are not the only people who engage in gaslighting–i.e. practice of trying to convince you to disregard and distrust your own senses. Politicians and church leaders sadly do this as well. A … Continue reading “Once gaslit…”
Always or Never Discard
“You never do anything to contribute to this marriage,” says Cheater. “You always have to do EVERYTHING for you,” says Cheater. Always or Never Discard You may be forgiven if you think what your Cheater is saying is about you. They are attributing behavior to you, after all. However, that is not the point of … Continue reading “Always or Never Discard”
Life Message – All About Connection To God
5 “Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing. … 9 “I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love.” -John 15:5, 9, NLT We were made to live … Continue reading “Life Message – All About Connection To God”
The pain WILL pass!
My tears have been my food day and night, while people say to me all day long, “Where is your God?” -Psalm 42:3, NIV The pain will pass. I know this is cold comfort in the middle of your pain. It is hard to think of a new world without your spouse and losing everything that … Continue reading “The pain WILL pass!”
Anticipating Loss
Loss is hard. We are currently considering putting down one of our birds. He got attacked by one of our larger birds in a moment when we did not notice the larger bird had made his way towards him. It all happened so suddenly. The injuries apparently are very bad according to the veterinarian that … Continue reading “Anticipating Loss”