Cheaters are often more worried about what people think about them than what they actually did. This is the reason that they are so upset when faithful spouses dare tell others about their adultery. Such revelations make them look bad. It is hard to spin committing adultery in a positive light–especially in a Christian community. (Albeit, some … Continue reading “Image protection over real repentance”
Author: Divorce Minister
Jen Hatmaker, famous Christian author and leader, announces her divorce
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. -Psalm 34:18, NIV Keep a close watch on how you live and on your teaching. Stay true to what is right for the sake of your own salvation and the salvation of those who hear you. -I Timothy 4:16, NLT Jen Hatmaker is … Continue reading “Jen Hatmaker, famous Christian author and leader, announces her divorce”
Cheater demanding you be “open and honest”
“Why can’t you just be open and honest with me?! I am being completely open and honest with you,” says a lying cheater in couples therapy. Openness and honesty is a noble attribute of healthy relationships. That is what makes this cheater plea so dangerous. It looks good to an outsider. In fact, it might … Continue reading “Cheater demanding you be “open and honest””
Labor Day Distraction Gift
When my life was recently obliterated by the discovery of the other man plus my (now ex) wife serving me divorce papers, I took a trip to visit my best friends in New York City. It was Labor Day weekend. Now, I am not a huge NYC fan–no offense to those who love this city … Continue reading “Labor Day Distraction Gift”
Most basic moral code failure
Jesus replied. “There is only One who is good. If you want to enter life, keep the commandments.” “Which ones?” he inquired. Jesus replied, “‘You shall not murder, you shall not commit adultery, you shall not steal, you shall not give false testimony…” -Matthew 19:17b-18, NIV Keeping the Ten Commandments are required for entering (eternal) life per … Continue reading “Most basic moral code failure”
Committing adultery is evidence of flunking Christianity 101.
The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,” and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor. -Romans 13:9-10a, NIV Cheaters have been known to profess their commitment to Christianity … Continue reading “Committing adultery is evidence of flunking Christianity 101.”
A confessing Christian cheater may not be a Christian
“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” -Matthew 7:21, NIV Confessing “Christian” Cheaters One of the most confusing part of dealing with adultery and general infidelity discoveries is how they do not fit with the … Continue reading “A confessing Christian cheater may not be a Christian”
Did you love her?
“Did you ever love her?” OR “Did you ever love him?” This is such a simply stated question. However, it is far from simple when applied to a cheater. Looking back on the marriage and how it ended, it is complicated. How can you say you ever loved someone who revealed they were utterly different … Continue reading “Did you love her?”
Reconciliation means to friendships, NOT marriage necessarily!
And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. – 2 Corinthians 5:19b, NIV Reconciled to friendship, NOT marriage! What often bothers me about Christians talking about marriages ravaged by adultery is how “reconciliation” is thrown about as the same thing as marriage restoration. It is not. A former couple could experience true reconciliation … Continue reading “Reconciliation means to friendships, NOT marriage necessarily!”
Guardian angels hard at work
“See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my Father in heaven.” -Matthew 18:10, NIV I was driving along a stretch of a highway today that I have traveled hundreds of times and was reminded of a particular … Continue reading “Guardian angels hard at work”