23 Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: 24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. -Psalm 139:23-24, KJV A natural temptation is to focus on controlling or directing the Cheater’s behavior. Please do your best to resist this temptation! … Continue reading “Control Temptation”
Author: Divorce Minister
Too much hating of divorce…
Too much hating of divorce is taught in church and not enough hating of adultery! I used to be of the camp that would say I hate divorce, too. These days I find that saying unhelpful. It perpetuates a poor translation of Malachi 2:16, which actually does not have God hating divorce. All of this … Continue reading “Too much hating of divorce…”
God hates sin, not divorce!
I have seen your adulteries, And your lustful neighings, The lewdness of your harlotry, Your abominations on the hills in the fields. Woe to you, O Jerusalem! Will you still not be made clean?” -Jeremiah 13:27, NKJV God Hates Adultery More Than He Hates Divorce. This is my response to Christian counselors and pastors who … Continue reading “God hates sin, not divorce!”
Scrambling Cheater: How’d you find out?
“How’d you find out?” asks incredulous, busted Cheater. When a Cheater gets busted and their first impulse is to learn how you discovered them, you know that cheater is the opposite of repentant. Notice this question isn’t a denial of the behavior. Asking it is a confirmation of sorts. The arrogant Cheater is flabbergasted that … Continue reading “Scrambling Cheater: How’d you find out?”
Red Flag: She wants you to fight over her.
Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. -Proverbs 4:23, NLT Red Flag: Your wife wants you to fight over her with another dude pursuing her. When your wife is asking you to beat out another man in competition for her heart, you know she is deep in an … Continue reading “Red Flag: She wants you to fight over her.”
Getting Stuck
See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. -Isaiah 43:19, NIV I am loyal. Sometimes the shadow side of this characteristic has gotten me in trouble. I have stayed in circumstances that no longer … Continue reading “Getting Stuck”
Turning it on you!
But Samuel replied, “What is more pleasing to the Lord: your burnt offerings and sacrifices or your obedience to his voice? Listen! Obedience is better than sacrifice, and submission is better than offering the fat of rams.” -I Samuel 15:22, NLT Notice how swiftly Cheaters can turn responsibility for their cheating onto you, their victim! … Continue reading “Turning it on you!”
Cheaters leveraging money power
Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is so unreliable. Their trust should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment. -I Timothy 6:17, NLT Cheaters are often cruel. Money is just one leverage point Cheaters use … Continue reading “Cheaters leveraging money power”
Vows on “for better or worse”
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “…for better, for worse…” These are familiar parts of the wedding vows in a Christian wedding ceremony. But do we really believe … Continue reading “Vows on “for better or worse””
An old but good song on grief
I’ve had a song playing in my head this morning. It is an old song that has a message about helping one through grief. The beauty of the song is highlighting having someone in our lives that gives us permission to feel all our feelings in our time of loss. I am grateful for people … Continue reading “An old but good song on grief”