“But now bring charges against Israel—your mother— for she is no longer my wife, and I am no longer her husband. Tell her to remove the prostitute’s makeup from her face and the clothing that exposes her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2, NLT Staying with a cheater is often a waste of time. Cheaters often do not … Continue reading “Waste of time”
Author: Divorce Minister
Curses missing
Like a flitting sparrow, like a flying swallow, So a curse without cause shall not alight. -Proverbs 26:2, KJV May all who gloat over my distress be put to shame and confusion; may all who exalt themselves over me be clothed with shame and disgrace. -Psalm 35:26, NIV My former father-in-law acted in very entitled ways at … Continue reading “Curses missing”
Sad, Deluded Cheaters
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Cheaters are often self-deluded. They think that if they have justified their infidelity to themselves then it is justified. Nothing could be further from the truth. Nothing justifies committing adultery! God does not hand out exceptions to the Ten Commandments. That is not how this most basic … Continue reading “Sad, Deluded Cheaters”
Yep, demonic
And when I forgive whatever needs to be forgiven, I do so with Christ’s authority for your benefit, so that Satan will not outsmart us. For we are familiar with his evil schemes. -2 Corinthians 2:10b-11, NLT When the same attacks and even words are used to tear down, I suspect a demonic origin behind those … Continue reading “Yep, demonic”
“Ravens” the Lord sends
Then the word of the Lord came to Elijah: “…You will drink from the brook, and I have directed the ravens to supply you with food there.” …The ravens brought him bread and meat in the morning and bread and meat in the evening, and he drank from the brook. -I Kings 17:2, 4, 6, NIV God sends His “ravens!” It … Continue reading ““Ravens” the Lord sends”
Anniversary… Would’ve been 19 years today!
Today would have been our 19th wedding anniversary. The reality is that I hardly register this date today. Unlike when the divorce was still fresh, it does not hit me with the sadness punch that it once did. It is simply another day. In some ways, I am such a different person than the young … Continue reading “Anniversary… Would’ve been 19 years today!”
Having Hobbies Are Important!
Hobbies are important to have! I work in a federal prison, and this is especially important for people like me. We can get consumed by work if we have nothing outside of it to draw our energies. The same is true about our relationships. We need to have healthy outlets to engage our minds and … Continue reading “Having Hobbies Are Important!”
Not forgiven
“And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.” -Matthew 7:23, KJV While I believe God makes forgiveness available to all (John 3:16, 2 Cor 5:14, etc), I do not believe all are forgiven. This verse from the Sermon on the Mount makes that much clear. … Continue reading “Not forgiven”
Leverage?! Really?!
The wicked flee though no one pursues…. -Proverbs 28:1a, NIV Disturbed people only see a history of cheating as leverage in a marriage. They could care less how the cheating has damaged and harmed the faithful spouse. The bigger problem for them is that they fear the faithful spouse “forever” holding it “over the head” … Continue reading “Leverage?! Really?!”
Grief lingers
Grief lingers on long after forgiveness has put anger to bed. This is my experience now years removed from my divorce from a cheater. The anger is long gone. Yet I find myself feeling sad as I think of what was lost, tragically. I say tragically as it never had to happen. Yet God allows … Continue reading “Grief lingers”