I am a sucker for getting pets. We got another parrot shortly after our wedding anniversary. That brings our “flock” to three. The latest is a talkative Jardine parrot. He is very beautiful and funny when he talks. An example is when he says, “Ooops” if his claws slip while walking on the newspaper. I … Continue reading “Animal Love”
Author: Divorce Minister
On leaving open the door to “Romantic Fantasy Land”
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV It is pointless to engage in “reconciliation” efforts while a partner continues cheating. You are wasting time and treasure. The worst piece of advice I got was to take my focus off … Continue reading “On leaving open the door to “Romantic Fantasy Land””
Healing DOES come!
Today, I received a simple junk-mail in my inbox. It was forwarded to me from my ex-wife. In the past, such an email would have triggered a “flight” response in my body as I felt my chest-tighten in panic. It didn’t elicit that sort of response in me this time. This tells me something: Healing … Continue reading “Healing DOES come!”
Grounded in Christ’s Love
And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. -Ephesians 3:17b-19, NIV Do … Continue reading “Grounded in Christ’s Love”
God’s Love…Antidote to Fear
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. -I John 4:18, KJV I am sharing another song that has ministered to my heart recently. It helps me to remember the truth about God’s love for me. Sometimes, we … Continue reading “God’s Love…Antidote to Fear”
Fear and Anxiety Rooted in Unbelief
And straightway the father of the child cried out, and said with tears, “Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief.” -Mark 9:24, KJV Like this father, sometimes we need help with our unbelief. I believe anxiety (non-medical kind) and fear are rooted in unbelief in God’s goodness towards us. More specifically, we struggle to believe … Continue reading “Fear and Anxiety Rooted in Unbelief”
A song to encourage
For your shame ye shall have double; and for confusion they shall rejoice in their portion: therefore in their land they shall possess the double: everlasting joy shall be unto them. -Isaiah 61:7, KJV Sometimes we need reminders of what our inheritance is in Christ. We can get fixated on what is “wrong” with the … Continue reading “A song to encourage”
Dear DM, I need your advice.
Dear DM, I need your advice. My wife has committed adultery several times in our marriage and I reconciled over and over again. Two of my ex wife’s lovers were my sons friend fathers and two more were my sons wrestling coach’s. After he discovered his second wrestling coach, he cut off contact with his … Continue reading “Dear DM, I need your advice.”
Feeding Into False Hope for Marriage Restoration
Sharing only testimonies of reconciled and restored marriages following adultery… feeds false hope in “reconciliation” for faithful spouses dealing with unrepentant cheaters. Show of hands. How many here thought their marriage was going to “make it” and then you would have a testimony about marriage reconciliation to share with others? I know I did. The … Continue reading “Feeding Into False Hope for Marriage Restoration”
You can forgive a cheater without the cheater being forgiven.
Christ suffered for our sins once for all time. He never sinned, but he died for sinners to bring you safely home to God. -I Peter 3:18a, NLT You can forgive a cheater without the cheater being forgiven. This is a paradoxical truth about forgiveness. Both are true. You have truly forgiven your cheater. However, … Continue reading “You can forgive a cheater without the cheater being forgiven.”