“Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” -Luke 7:47, NIV The amount of gratitude ought to match the amount forgiven. This is one lesson I take from Jesus’ teaching in this verse. And it is an important spiritual lesson … Continue reading “Gratitude (or lack thereof) is very telling!”
Author: Divorce Minister
An Active Ongoing Choice
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…. -Proverbs 23:7a, KJV Forgiving an enemy is hard work. It is hard to interrupt the ruminations on revenge. The thought gets going and builds steam until it consumes your emotional well-being. This is not good. Why give an enemy so much power over our emotional … Continue reading “An Active Ongoing Choice”
Refuse to Ride
To heal, we have to acknowledge the truth. The sad thing is our cheater may never actually do this. They might engage you in an endless battle over getting you to take responsibility for their abuse of you. That argument is one crazy ride. Refuse to take the bait. While helpful, you do not have … Continue reading “Refuse to Ride”
Why bother acting righteously?
When the wicked prosper, why bother being good? This is a common question I encounter when a faithful spouses watches their cheating (ex) spouse seemingly avoid any real-life consequences for acting so dastardly and wickedly. It is an ancient question. The Bible is full of rejoinders to the person who is wondering about this sort … Continue reading “Why bother acting righteously?”
Most Important Judgment Already Passed
33 Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us right standing with himself. 34 Who then will condemn us? -Romans 8:33-34a, NLT Uncertainty breeds fear. Our minds can imagine all sorts of horrors as we sit in a place of uncertainty. Marriage limbo is not an enjoyable place … Continue reading “Most Important Judgment Already Passed”
To Be Seen: Where are the godly divorced testimonies in church?
Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly. -Matthew 1:19, NIV And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; … Continue reading “To Be Seen: Where are the godly divorced testimonies in church?”
Cheaters Exploiting Your Weakness
Public Service Announcement: Cheaters are known to try and exploit you when you are most vulnerable. This is why having a good divorce lawyer (and potentially a forensic accountant) is important. A marriage ending is not like breaking up in high school. Real assets are in play. Breaking a marriage covenant has legal and financial consequences. Like so … Continue reading “Cheaters Exploiting Your Weakness”
Interest in a Divorce Minister Podcast?
I am toying with the idea of changing up media forms here on the blog. Podcasts seem the rage these days. I know I appreciate consuming content when I am commuting or doing household chores like mowing the grass. What do you all think about a Divorce Minister Show podcast? I bought a Udemy course … Continue reading “Interest in a Divorce Minister Podcast?”
Wisdom of Holy Saturday
Holy Saturday is the day between Good Friday and Easter Sunday. This is when Jesus laid in the grave. His disciples were grappling with the reality of his death. They were likely fearing what the Romans and angry Pharisees might do to them. The point is Holy Saturday is a day when all seemed hopeless … Continue reading “Wisdom of Holy Saturday”
Comfort from the Cross
He took my sins and my sorrows,He made them His very own;He bore the burden to Calvary,And suffered and died alone. -“I Stand Amazed in the Presence” by Charles Gabriel I love this old hymn from 1905. This verse in particular speaks comforting truths to me. What I love about this verse is how empathetic … Continue reading “Comfort from the Cross”