Today marks what would have been the thirteenth wedding anniversary with my first wife. Sometimes, this date passes without notice for me. Not this year, I had a rough weekend on the way to this anniversary. I cannot explain why in particular. That is how grief works. We do not dictate what we feel. Our … Continue reading “Another Anniversary”
Author: Divorce Minister
Funny thing about grief…
The “funny” thing about grief is it has its own timetable. You might have thought you were “done” grieving your losses. In fact, you might actually be happy–cognitively–about being done with a crazy-acting cheater. Yet your head does not dictate this process. The heart has a way of getting its way. You cannot out run … Continue reading “Funny thing about grief…”
Seared.
Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron…. -I Timothy 4:2, KJV Hypocritical liars will deceive many, and their consciences won’t bother them at all! -I Timothy 4:2, TPT While this verse is really about false teachers leading people astray, I think it applies to cheaters as well. This verse reminds … Continue reading “Seared.”
Full of thanks!
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever. -Psalm 107:1, NIV Sometimes we need a detox from seeing the vile stuff cheaters and their supporters do. I think the best way to do this detox is by giving thanks. We all have things for which we can give thanks. Even the breath in … Continue reading “Full of thanks!”
Religious cheaters are the worst!
“If someone says, ‘I love God,’ but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?” -I John 4:20, NLT Religious cheaters are the worst. It is bad enough dealing with a cheater. A religious cheater … Continue reading “Religious cheaters are the worst!”
Permission to divorce comes with permission to remarry
When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when … Continue reading “Permission to divorce comes with permission to remarry”
The Extravagance of God
Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think…. -Ephesians 3:20a, KJV God is God. This means we are not. This is important to remember when suffering the awful injustices and losses of adultery discovery and divorce. Just because we cannot see a way forward does … Continue reading “The Extravagance of God”
“Saved Marriages”
When pastors or Christian counselors boast of “saved marriages,” I am immediately skeptical. Usually, this means the couple did not divorce. It really says nothing about whether or not repentance took place on the part of the cheater. The spiritual health of the spouses is not really addressed or defined with such numbers. “Saving” a … Continue reading ““Saved Marriages””
Did God “fail” as the leader and head of Israel?
She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. -Jeremiah 3:8a, NLT For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church…. -Ephesians 5:23a, KJV When pastors and elders choose to blame marriages ending on men failing as “spiritual heads,” I would like them to … Continue reading “Did God “fail” as the leader and head of Israel?”
Darkness tests our faith in the Light
And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. -Hebrews 11:6, NIV When our worlds are blown up and we feel like all is darkness, we are faced with a choice: Do I believe the Light … Continue reading “Darkness tests our faith in the Light”