Yet you say, “For what reason?”Because the Lord has been witnessBetween you and the wife of your youth,With whom you have dealt treacherously;Yet she is your companionAnd your wife by covenant. Malachi 2:14, NKJV One of the many awful ideas spouted in my first marriage’s demise was the suggestion it was a “starter marriage.” For those unfamiliar with … Continue reading ““Starter Marriage” Craziness”
Author: Divorce Minister
Another Anniversary To Celebrate!
Today is our wedding anniversary! Mrs. DM and I have been married for five years today. Soon my marriage to this amazing woman is going to exceed the length of my first marriage. An awful situation–the adulterous abandonment of my first wife–has blossomed into an awesome future. This is a future I never saw coming … Continue reading “Another Anniversary To Celebrate!”
My God gets angry!
In my distress I called upon the Lord, And cried out to my God; He heard my voice from His temple, And my cry came before Him, even to His ears. Then the earth shook and trembled; The foundations of the hills also quaked and were shaken, Because He was angry. -Psalm 18:6-7, NKJV My God gets … Continue reading “My God gets angry!”
Souls endure, not marriages
For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven. -Matthew 22:30, KJV This verse is very clear. Jesus tells us human marriage does not endure in heaven. Since this is true, spiritual counsel ought to take this into account. The priority ought to … Continue reading “Souls endure, not marriages”
Psychopaths do exist. Wise Christians face this truth.
Christians can be incredibly naive. They want to live in a world where people have adaptive feeling of shame and guilt over wrong-doing. However, not everyone has those buttons. A wise pastor faces this difficult reality: Psychopaths do exist! Part of facing that reality is learning to recognize when one is being “played” by these … Continue reading “Psychopaths do exist. Wise Christians face this truth.”
Anchoring our hearts on truth
Sometimes cheaters will push us off our balance with their confident lies. The antidote to lies is truth. Our journey to healthy spirituality is a journey of growing deeper in our understanding of truth. Truth is reality. Cheaters deal in fiction and lies. Some have been dealing in such worlds so long that they have … Continue reading “Anchoring our hearts on truth”
Cheater not filing, NOT enough!
“A wicked and adulterous generation looks for a sign, but none will be given it except the sign of Jonah.” Jesus then left them and went away. -Matthew 16:4, NIV Some Christian leaders will encourage faithful spouses to stay in marriages if their cheater chooses not to file for divorce. I am NOT one of those! … Continue reading “Cheater not filing, NOT enough!”
DM, Why do they still support the cheater?
Dear Divorce Minister, I was married to a minister for 21 years. I knew after a year of marriage that my marriage was over as he was cheating on me with a high school student. When I confronted him, the narcissistic abuse began and continued until he asked for a divorce after he got caught … Continue reading “DM, Why do they still support the cheater?”
Frustrated over your circumstances? Give thanks.
Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. -I Thessalonians 5:18, NLT Ever notice how often we take our own health for granted until we get sick? Maybe it is only me who does this? But I doubt it. Focusing on what we do NOT have … Continue reading “Frustrated over your circumstances? Give thanks.”
PSA: Parents’ and In-Laws’ place is OUTSIDE of the marriage bed!
Some cheaters and their supporters have no shame. This seems especially true of the parents’ of some cheaters. They are willing to offer incredibly unhelpful and inappropriate advice to their daughter/son-in-law. Public Service Announcement: Dispensing unsolicited advice about the frequency (or “quality”) of a couple’s sex-life is a matter that no parent or in-law ought to … Continue reading “PSA: Parents’ and In-Laws’ place is OUTSIDE of the marriage bed!”