I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. – I Corinthians 7:8-9, KJV Love may wait to have sex… …but waiting does not guarantee your marriage will not … Continue reading “Love may wait…but it does not guarantee happily ever after!”
Author: Divorce Minister
I don’t want YOU to work it out…
“I don’t want you to work it out… …if your adulterous spouse is unrepentant. I simply do not.” I wish more pastors would take this stance and verbalize it to their congregants. It is very Biblical (e.g. Jeremiah 3:8, Ezekiel 18:20, 2 Corinthians 5:10, Matthew 19:9, Hebrews 13:4, etc.). However, I am aware that for some pastors … Continue reading “I don’t want YOU to work it out…”
Happy Thanksgiving 2015!
Happy Thanksgiving! I can remember that first Thanksgiving without a spouse in the picture. It was rough. But I still had things for which to thank God. He had moved so that I had a job and was just starting to get my footing in the career I love–i.e. professional chaplaincy. I had wonderful parents, … Continue reading “Happy Thanksgiving 2015!”
Good Samaritan OR Religious Person?
“A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. So too, … Continue reading “Good Samaritan OR Religious Person?”
Pastors, It is NOT an “Either/Or!”
THE “EITHER/OR”: EITHER you support marriages OR you support those going through divorce. When Mrs. DM and I were at our former church, I proposed to offer my services in starting a divorce and separated support group to help those who had experienced or were experiencing divorce, separation, and/or were considering such. The senior leadership looked … Continue reading “Pastors, It is NOT an “Either/Or!””
“I am so thankful my wife puts up with me.”
“I’m so thankful that my wife puts up with me.” -Old-School Evangelical huband This statement may be true. Plus, in some ways, it is a harmless statement of gratitude for a wife who is willing to accept her husband–minor flaws and all. That is good. However, I have heard it stated by individuals that go … Continue reading ““I am so thankful my wife puts up with me.””
Does Your Soul Feel Downcast?
Psalms are beautiful expressions of the heart. I love this Psalm and suspect many can relate to the Psalmist’s words. Have you ever struggled with feeling downcast? This is a Psalm for you… Psalm 42* 1As the hart panteth after the water brooks, so panteth my soul after thee, O God. 2 My soul thirsteth for … Continue reading “Does Your Soul Feel Downcast?”
Mindset Change: Default to Divorce Biblically
And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also. – Jeremiah 3:8, KJV Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not … Continue reading “Mindset Change: Default to Divorce Biblically”
What if Hosea was an evangelical pastor today?
“Plead with your mother, plead— for she is not my wife, and I am not her husband— that she put away her whoring from her face, and her adultery from between her breasts, … For their mother has played the whore; she who conceived them has acted shamefully.” -Hosea 2:2, 5a, NRSV Join me in … Continue reading “What if Hosea was an evangelical pastor today?”
There are some “wins” in store for you!
As long as Moses held up his hands, the Israelites were winning, but whenever he lowered his hands, the Amalekites were winning. When Moses’ hands grew tired, they took a stone and put it under him and he sat on it. Aaron and Hur held his hands up—one on one side, one on the other—so … Continue reading “There are some “wins” in store for you!”