Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Cut Through the Confusion! Cheaters thrive on confusion in their mark spouse. They hope the faithful spouse buys into the line that the cheating is really their fault and NOT the cheaters. Some will employ professionals to add to the confusion having faithful spouses believe the cheating … Continue reading “Cut Through the Confusion”
Author: Divorce Minister
Could’ve Been SO different!
A danger for faithful spouses is focusing on the fantasy and not the reality of their situation. A spouse who cheats is the opposite of what the faithful spouse signed up for on their wedding day. Obviously, the marriage could have gone a very different way! I think it is wise to acknowledge this. Something precious was … Continue reading “Could’ve Been SO different!”
He Has You!
27 My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. 28 I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand. -John 10:27-28, NIV I do equipped bench pressing for a hobby. Last week, I held the weight seen in this picture (855lbs) for the first time.* It … Continue reading “He Has You!”
Gratitude Even and Especially In Hard Times
Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. -I Thessalonians 5:18, NLT Ever notice how often we take our own health for granted until we get sick? Maybe it is only me who does this? But I doubt it. Focusing on what we do NOT have … Continue reading “Gratitude Even and Especially In Hard Times”
Animal Fidelity
Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? -Matthew 6:26, NKJV Animals can teach us a lot. I sit here writing as my parrot buddy is preening himself on my computer. He … Continue reading “Animal Fidelity”
Advise, NOT dictate!
11 No one can know a person’s thoughts except that person’s own spirit, and no one can know God’s thoughts except God’s own Spirit. 12 And we have received God’s Spirit (not the world’s spirit), so we can know the wonderful things God has freely given us. -1 Corinthians 2:11-12, NLT A good pastor understands he (or she) … Continue reading “Advise, NOT dictate!”
Allergic Reaction to Religious Babble
“…having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away!” -2 Timothy 3:5, NKJV I have lost my tolerance for religious spin words. This is one of those things that have happened after my experience surviving my ex-wife’s infidelity. Not only am I painfully aware of how such words are … Continue reading “Allergic Reaction to Religious Babble”
Burden to their “self-discovery”
Why does cheating for some people seem necessary in their quest for “self discovery”? I do not see this as necessarily connected. One can explore oneself without betraying one’s spouse. However, I suspect this behavior is in part a holdover from cheaters never really rebelling as a youth as it wasn’t safe for them. They … Continue reading “Burden to their “self-discovery””
Father of habitual liars
For you are the children of your father the devil, and you love to do the evil things he does…. When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies. -John 8:44a,c, NLT When you find someone who lies with ease, you are finding someone who … Continue reading “Father of habitual liars”
Not just watched, but seen!
You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book. -Psalm 56:8, NLT A few weeks ago, I had the privilege of jumping on a live online event with Fr. Gregory Boyle. He is a priest whose life work is directed … Continue reading “Not just watched, but seen!”