So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning. -Job 42:12a, NLT Faithful Spouses, we have a choice: Do we keep on allowing the cheater to be the central player in our life story or do we go out and take command of our story forging decisions … Continue reading “Make that cheater a mere footnote!”
Author: Divorce Minister
Not a kiss, but rather a final hug.
“Goodbye in her eyes” by Zac Brown Band It wasn’t a kiss. It was a hug. We had just finished our dentist appointments. She had forgotten that she had made joint appointments. I had already confronted her about the Other Man about two weeks prior. She was still lying about him and still denying adultery. … Continue reading “Not a kiss, but rather a final hug.”
“Yes, it is a problem. Adultery is THE problem!”
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Which is the biggest marital sin that one can commit according to the Bible? Adultery. Cheaters–and sometimes, even well-meaning pastors–sometimes treat adultery as a side problem to marriage troubles. This … Continue reading ““Yes, it is a problem. Adultery is THE problem!””
Song to bring peace
Songs are such wonderful gifts. I find music helps me move truth from my head down to my heart. Here’s one song I love to listen to when I feel anxious. It helps me reconnect with the truth of God’s love for me. The song is “No Longer Slaves” by Bethel Music:
Claim the truth in song!
“My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand. My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father’s … Continue reading “Claim the truth in song!”
Cheater-Speak: “You weren’t doing enough.”
“You weren’t pulling your weight in this family. So, I was all alone and overwhelmed with everything. That’s why I cheated,” says Cheater. The poor overwhelmed cheater was able to make space in her calendar to lie, steal, and risk the physical well-being of their spouse. Such a cheater is trying to illicit pity in … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “You weren’t doing enough.””
Yes, they DO get more vicious while cheating!
They demonstrate that God’s law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right. -Romans 2:15, NLT Sometimes cheaters become crueler to their spouses when they are actively engaged in infidelity. They cheat and attend couples counseling where they tell the counselor or … Continue reading “Yes, they DO get more vicious while cheating!”
God knows “just the right time”
You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. -Romans 5:6, NIV “At just the right time” I think we are conditioned as a species to think the “right time” is when we are able to “save ourselves.” We think that is when a partnership with God is appropriate. … Continue reading “God knows “just the right time””
Yeah, how dare we! Ha.
How dare we object to being humiliated by our cheater! How dare we object to our cheater dirty dancing with another partner! How dare we object to our cheater taking another (romantic) partner as their plus one! Cheaters treat faithful spouses as the unreasonable one. Ironically, they are the unreasonable ones in these scenarios. Cheaters act entitled … Continue reading “Yeah, how dare we! Ha.”
Zobrist Saga Continues With Dirty Dancing Allegations
“During the celebration [church retirement party for Yawn], Julianna and Pastor Yawn both got drunk and were described in the filings as ‘dancing “on” each other in a provocative way that was very embarrassing to Ben Zobrist, especially in front of their close church friends.’ The dad-of-three baseball player privately rebuked his wife for her … Continue reading “Zobrist Saga Continues With Dirty Dancing Allegations”