But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. -Proverbs 6:32, NIV Before I discovered the confirmed adultery partner, I was warned something was likely happening via a family friend. Adults use to regular sexual relations and romantic attentions do not stop “cold turkey.” An outlet is needed. The coldness towards … Continue reading “Getting “it” from somewhere!”
Bitterness or anger over injustice?
God is a just judge, And God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NKJV Christians are quick to judge faithful spouses as “bitter” without pausing to consider another–more likely–origin of such strong anger: Injustice. To be angry at injustice is a good and godly response to have. It is not “bitterness” but … Continue reading “Bitterness or anger over injustice?”
Remember who made the mess!
Faithful spouse, remember who made this mess! If you are like many of us, you will be tempted to take on responsibility for fixing the relationship blown up by your partner’s infidelity. Please, don’t! The only way the relationship can be repaired is by the person who blew it up in the first place. Sadly, … Continue reading “Remember who made the mess!”
Poor, sinful choices.
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT Adultery is a culmination of sinful choices. I think it is important to understand that we are not dealing with one sin alone when it comes to … Continue reading “Poor, sinful choices.”
Believe it. THAT devious!
The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth. -Proverbs 12:22, NLT Yes, THAT devious! I doubt I am the only one who struggled to believe my (now) ex-wife was that devious. It is kind of baked into a healthy marriage that we give each other the benefit of the … Continue reading “Believe it. THAT devious!”
PSA: Partial truths = lies
So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body. -Ephesians 4:25, NLT Public Service Announcement: Partial Truths Are Fully Lies! This is a very common tactic of caught cheaters. They will confess to the point where the evidence would make them look ridiculous but … Continue reading “PSA: Partial truths = lies”
Will be found out!
But if you fail to keep your word, then you will have sinned against the LORD, and you may be sure that your sin will find you out. -Numbers 32:23, NLT (emphasis mine) What amazes me is how cheaters seem to believe their sins and treachery are beyond discovery by faithful spouses! To be fair, … Continue reading “Will be found out!”
Preferring to be wrong
Discovering you spouse has been committing adultery is an incredibly traumatic experience. -You want to be wrong–even crazy is preferable to the real traumatic mess this actually is! -You want your world NOT to be upended and obliterated like it is. -In short, you want to wake up from this nightmare. This is grief and … Continue reading “Preferring to be wrong”
Matthew 19:9 – First Nations Version
“‘But here is how I will answer you,’ he told them. ‘Any man who sends his wife away and marries another is guilty of being unfaithful to her, unless she was the one who was not faithful.’” -Matthew 19:9, First Nations Version: An Indigenous Translation of the New Testament I love reading Bible verses in … Continue reading “Matthew 19:9 – First Nations Version”
Not gonna fix the marriage, though.
For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God… -Romans 3:23, KJV While it is wise and admirable to work on one’s own sins, issues, and shortcomings, I believe it is important to be clear about one thing: Faithful Spouse, “fixing” yourself cannot fix your adultery-ravaged marriage. Despite what “Christian” books and … Continue reading “Not gonna fix the marriage, though.”