“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not!” -Matthew 23:37, KJV Even Jesus did not force reconciliation of His Bride! This is what this … Continue reading “Even Jesus Did Not Force Reconciliation!”
Sometimes it is not fixable.
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” -Isaiah 43:18-19a, NIV Sometimes the marriage is not fixable, and it comes time to focus on a new thing. A cheater who refuses to repent makes a marriage not fixable. It would be unwise to reinvest in a … Continue reading “Sometimes it is not fixable.”
We still have cemeteries.
Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all people, because all sinned…. -Romans 5:12, NIV We still have cemeteries. In fact, I have one less than a mile from my house. It is a pretty full one at that. We still … Continue reading “We still have cemeteries.”
Your spouse was never meant to meet this need…
Free Marriage Advice: If you are looking to your spouse to prove that you are lovable, you are looking to the wrong person. When we look to humans to fill a God-shaped hole, we will always be disappointed. Humans were never intended to “fix” us. Only God can satisfy the deepest longings in our souls. … Continue reading “Your spouse was never meant to meet this need…”
Choices and Cheaters
“Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!” -Deuteronomy 30:19, NLT Cheater sympathizers often miss the real choices cheaters make. They … Continue reading “Choices and Cheaters”
Dear DM, I recently had a conversation…
Dear Divorce Minister, Recently I had a chat with an acquaintance and she gave me some advice that excuses the cheater’s behaviour. I work in social justice and one of the shared values I thought myself and my ex husband had is advocating for women’s health. I was quite excited when he wrote a PhD on … Continue reading “Dear DM, I recently had a conversation…”
Conclusion of investigation into Ravi Zacharias exposes years of sexual misconduct!
The headline from the Christianity Today article says it all about the sad chapter about the investigation into Ravi Zacharias’ behavior: “Ravi Zacharias Hid Hundreds of Pictures of Women, Abuse During Massages, and a Rape Allegation.” The actual report from Miller and Martin, PLLC is particularly disturbing to read (see here). I find the fact this … Continue reading “Conclusion of investigation into Ravi Zacharias exposes years of sexual misconduct!”
It is a funny thing!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Funny how “Christian” folk are swift to condemn divorce but slower and “nuanced” when it comes to condemning adultery. I think such is a sign of immaturity, minimally. It may even be a sign of someone not truly knowing God as God’s heart on these matters could … Continue reading “It is a funny thing!”
Most “Christian” resources I found during my difficult time…
While I am thankful for the help of some Christian resources in my dark season, I discovered most had an agenda apart from freely presenting the options. Most Christian resources–in my experience–are focused upon “saving the marriage.” This goal is pursued at the unacknowledged cost of the faithful spouse’s well-being. For these authors and pastors, … Continue reading “Most “Christian” resources I found during my difficult time…”
Hi DM, I agree, but I have heard so many Christians tell faithful spouses…
Hi DM, It is true that the cheater almost never repents when discovered, at least most of the time. But I’ve heard so many Christians tell faithful spouses that they should pray for their love ones to repent, that it is their duty to keep the marriage because it is a covenant and they can … Continue reading “Hi DM, I agree, but I have heard so many Christians tell faithful spouses…”