PSA: If the cheater did not come clean on their own…

“Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.” -Matthew 10:16, KJV If a cheater did not come clean on their own, the chances of true repentance diminish greatly. I would warn you to be prepared for either anger over discovery or … Continue reading “PSA: If the cheater did not come clean on their own…”

PSA: Your ex does not get to dictate your beliefs. You get to choose!

“Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but not to his own facts.” -Daniel Patrick Moynihan, American Politician Cheaters often forget that faithful spouses do not owe them agreement with their marriage ending narrative. This reality does not stop cheaters from expecting and demanding such agreement, though. Cheaters are perfectly fine pressuring a faithful partner (or ex) … Continue reading “PSA: Your ex does not get to dictate your beliefs. You get to choose!”

Dear DM, What about love keeping no record of wrongs?

  Hello DM, I’m glad I found your website. It’s refreshing to hear I have an out when dealing with my wife’s adultery. D-Day is Jan. 23 for me so it’s pretty fresh.    I have a question about the 1 Cor. 13:5 passage about not keeping a record of wrongs. Nowadays, the way I … Continue reading “Dear DM, What about love keeping no record of wrongs?”

Forgiveness and grace for cheaters? Sure, as long as…

Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. There is only the terrible expectation of God’s judgment and the raging fire that will consume his enemies. -Hebrews 10:26-27, NLT Cheaters ARE eligible for forgiveness and grace as long … Continue reading “Forgiveness and grace for cheaters? Sure, as long as…”

A master’s class in recognizing spiritual abuse and religious manipulations

 In the same way, on the outside you appear to people as righteous but on the inside you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness. -Matthew 23:28, NIV Dealing with a religious cheater and religious supporters of said cheater results in a master’s class in spiritual abuse tactics and religious manipulations. The lessons I have learned … Continue reading “A master’s class in recognizing spiritual abuse and religious manipulations”

Whatever our troubles, they do not win. Jesus has and does!

“In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” -Jesus in John 16:33b, NIV Whatever the trouble we may facing, we have these words of comfort from Jesus. The world does not win! It soothes my anxieties to remember this truth. While Jesus promises that we will experience trouble in this … Continue reading “Whatever our troubles, they do not win. Jesus has and does!”